locksmith01

hey cool thought, my thought on anything that includes the word "hook up" just really blows my mind, good thought though lol at lease I can say I finally met someone that really knows what im in.

I feel ya there. @ years 19 month old, getting back together and so on. I am the exact same, same 2 years, same 19 month old. I give up the new ex and I are friends, only, the old ex and I are thru. Its my kid and me. Hes happy im happy and thats all that counts. I work full time and refurbish houses and have the money love and time for him. Your right, the right woman will come along, probally when Im 90, but I at least have somthing to look forward to.

Well I dont think it was for the kid. That may have been an excuse. Mabey it was the comfort zone, or a familiraty point. It could have been the happy part but mabey it was the fear of having to learn a new person and tyrying new things that I was not used to. I just dont know. I do have coustody of my son and he and I will focous on life as a hole, without a new girl. Yes, easier said than done.

I feel ya there. I have coustody now and probally till Nov when we go to court over him. There is no chance in hell I will lose coustody because of her psyco report. The newley ex really wasnt a relationship but was developing into it. I love both but one more than the other. There were stipulations why we could not be together. I wish i could go back and do it all over again. We all know thats lives greatiest wish, cannot happen. So advice well taken. Ill raise my son and just live the single life. I have a good biz and my own house, and plenty of money, so he and I will just party like crazy, well as much as an 19 month old can. =]

on this note I just wanted to say that sometimes the new love will be "different" something fresh and new, maybe something that enjoyed from the last relationship in the beginning, sometimes this can be the culprit and mislead people and they fall in love too fast. Hence, "being off the rebound" This kinds of loves I have found to be very dangerous, to myself as well as the person. It damages yourself by not healing properly and if you have not healed properly and fully from the first before jumping into the new relationship, it could double the hurt after the new relationship has gone south. So I strongly believe that healing first and getting some things fixed with yourself first before taking another chance at love. point well taken, how do you heel from the old realtionship when you have a child and the ex knows just what to say and do to pull you back in. as far as the new realtionship, I wasnt planning on anything. She was just a friend and damn I fell. Now shes hurt and very mad and im upset because of her. The ex is hurt because of the new and I am upset. So until I know what to do and how to handle it, Ill jsut look at pics right??? =}

I read your reply. Where are they? All I ever get is, i just wanna be friends or I just wanna party and have fun. Probally the places I meet them =}

There is no real timing for dating. I started the day she left. that was 3 months ago and im still not ready for serious yet. You will know when your ready, when you fall for that special somone without even thinking about it, you will know

I have a theary. yes you can be with anyone. as long as you have great comunication and others stay out of your buisiness. i have been there with the great ones and the not so great ones. I am currently coming out of a rocky relationship. At times it could have been great as long as we communicated and acted like adults. When other stayed out of our lives and let us live it, we were great. I believe you can have a reltionship with who ever YOU chose, with the agrement that they chose you also, (wink wink) if the other person does not communicate than nothing will work. You have to have the proper communication. Some people you jsut cannot click with because of GREAT differences. I dont believe in Soul Mates or destiny. Im 30 and havent found it yet. I kinds believe that there is someone out there for you just like everything is planned. I way I see it is, god gives you choices. if you chose his path you will be led to the man/Woman he wishes for you to be with. But then again not really. It all comes down to communication. If you cannot communicate with the ones god gives you, you will never have what he wants.

I am in a situation where my girlfriend and I broke up after 2 years and a child. There were a lot of hurtful things said during the break up and we both vowed to never speak again. I met a really wonderful girl and fell in love like I never have before. Like a DUM A&& I took the ex back not once not twice but 3 times. I destoryed the relationship with the new girl and really hurt the ones that were there for me while my ex and I were apart. I feel really bad for falling into her trap time after time. I was just thinking that since we had a child together taht we could work it out. Through lots of counceling and therapy to work on my self it was no change. i have been downed by a lot of my friends and really hurt the once true love and friend I have ever had. My advice to all of yall. If there was a reason to break up, it will not work if yall get back. Nothing ever changes no matter how hard you try. Im sure there are a few out there that do, but believe me there are more that dosent. if you find a new love that treats you better than the last, dont thing it will change because in my experience it wont. Like I have said this is only my experience. If you love someone and they love you the same, dont ever ruin it. If yall break up than let it go. dont hurt the ones that respect you just for a piece.