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    supp11, Then what must change? Ever hear of the boy who cried wolf? You are doing the same thing because you are allowing her to do it to you. This is all your fault. She is doing what she is used to doing and you area allowing her to pull you like strings on a puppet. You need to cut the strings and be the more confident and loving person you were meant to be. Stand up and say NO MORE. The more you allow her to use you the more she will do it. -SuperDave71
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    He comforts you so much it pushes him into the arms of a new girl so they can go one a holiday together... How comforting.... -SuperDave71
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    Thank you SighSob....I really appreciate that. -SuperDave71
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    LISTEN TO WHAT YOU JUST SAID... Why would you want a hug from a man that is seeing someone else and making you PLAN B, C, or maybe not even in his plan? Are you that desperate that regardless of what he does, your feelings don't matter? Please tell us this is not the case? -SuperDave71
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    We all want what we can't have......cancel and see if he tries to contact you more. -SuperDave71
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    brazil..... I think you need to get a loving grip on yourself. You are setting yourself up to be hurt almost 2 times worse than you already are. The reson you want to see him is to see him and hope that he wants to take you back. Most people ALREADY KONW the answers they just choose to NOT LISTEN to that little voice that says..."It's over". You must be a pleaser by nature and want to try and "FIX" things. Please do what you feel is right but you have been warned. His words mean NOTHING if his actions cannot back them up. Actions speak louder than words. Let go of what USED to be and accepet it as a learning experience. If in his heart he truly loves you...nothing but NOTHING will ever stop him from SHOWING YOU. Think about it... -SuperDave71
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    jfp, Let me encourage you more. Listen carefully. Despite you wanting you ex back, doesn't mean he is pining for you. I am not trying to be cruel but more or less honest with you. Right now you are in the shadows in case this OTHER person doesn't work out. You are allowing him to hurt you whether it be accidental or intensional but the common ground is YOU ARE ALLOWING IT TO HAPPEN. Snap your spine back into place and learn that you are someone who gives love freely and expects the same in return. If it isn't, how do you expect it will change in time? Just because you had a past doesn;t mean you will have a future. We learn from our mistakes but UNTIL we realize they were mistakes and learn from thime, we can't move forward. Let go of this guy that wants to keep you behind the stage. You should be the lead character and share in his spotlight. learn to walk away and know in time you did the right thing. There is someone out there for you taht WANTS to share you with the world and give you the loving spotlight you deserve. The world is your stage....play your part. Take care, SuperDave71
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    You are NOT PLAN "B".....quit waiting on someone who doesn't know what they want to finally change their mind. It makes you look weak, vulnerable, desperate and unconfident. How sexy is that? -SuperDave71
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    jfpieron, One of the biggest misconceptions of being away from the one you love is that the more time they share with you after the break means they are getting closer to you. This is a HUGE no no. Yes, I must admit the actions are there but it's the action itself that TRULY matters. If they meet you out and see you yet are not honest enough with themselves and especially with you, what have you actually gained? You gained time shared but your ultimate goal is to be together. This may not be their initial goal but if you do the same thing over an dover again and expect a different result...that is on you. Just because someone wants to share their time with you doesn't mean anything without the love behind it. He tells you of this other person yet you sit and consider his time valuable as you silently sit and try to quiet your weeping heart. Who wants to be second best? They may feel as if they are being honest with you which is a good thing, yet you are continuing to beat yoru head against a brink wall assuming it will not hurt as much if you kep doing it. What do you want? Where do you matter? No once have you made a comment about what it is you want. You matter FIRST. Get the notion that he will suddenly change his mind and run to you. Let go of the possibility of the more time he calls and spends with you that you are FIRST because what you have already stated about someone else. Go with what you know....NEVER with what you assume. Think about it... -SuperDave71
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    This has nothing to do with love but more of an abandonment issue. You are worried about being REPLACED rather than NOT being loved. You need to look at his actions NOT his words. He says he loves you but what is he DOING? You mess his head up? What kind of nonsense is that? He is doing and telling you exactly what he wants you to hear in order to get a response back from you. You need to let go of the notion that he loves you and learn to love yourself more. Take him off your high horse and give it to someone who deserves it. -SuperDave71
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    Now why on earth would you want to do that? -SuperDave71
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    Parlae, Exactly. People that love one another SHOW it consitently. There is no guess work or assumptions. Love is a two way street... No matter how much you think you love someone, if they do not feel the same...it will never work. -SuperDave71
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    Tomorrow is another day just like today. If you make it to be a special day, then you will make yourself feel worse because of the meaning you put into it. If you hear a song you have heard a million times and thought nothing of it yet you danced with your ex under the stars and shared a special moment, then suddenly something that was once trivial becomes meaningful. Let go of tomorow being for lovers...feel lucky you have loved and lost rather than never have loved at all. I know its hard but try to focus on those that DO love you rather than the ONE that is acting like they don't Think about it... -SuperDave71
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    Before you break No Contact, ask yourself this simple question: "What positive difference will it make if I break No Contact? The problems you are facing are all the same. Your instinct is what you HOPE will happen rather than what DOES happen. There is a HUGE difference between what you assume and what you know. If you are unsure of whether you should contact or not, don't do it. If you make contact and don't get the results you hoped for, you are only runnig backwards instaed of moving forward. Love has no time limits and if they love you, nothing can keep them from loving you. Stop the notions that you HAVE TO DO something in order to "win the back". Imagine playing tug of war by yourself. If there is no one on the other side, what's the point in playing? If you continue to over analyze everything you ex throws at you then you are not ready to break NC. Words are only words unless actions back them up. Don't settle for scraps when you should be sitting at the table enjoying the feast. Think about it... -SuperDave71
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    It is never too late to improve anything with yourself. Ever... -SuperDave71
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    KameChan, As long as you learned your lesson NOW...that is all that matters. I wish you the best! -SuperDave71
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    Challenge, Hello there. Depending on HOW you are using NC is the biggest obstacle you will face. If you are using NC to "win them back" you will fail. No matter how much time passes, you will fail. You never announce NC because if you do, this gives your ex a reason why you are not communicating thereforee it will NOT be expected. I learned to become a DO'er. Not a talker. Talk is cheap and I know you are hurting but you have to get through this. There are those on this foum taking my challenge in hopes of having the ex miss them. Sure it may happen though the reunion will be short lasted. If you do not fix and heal your heat, you will be unable to accept the new love that someone, even your ex is will to give you. How can you love with a broken heart? You can't. It's as if you want to ride a bike without tires. You can try, but you will ineveitably fail due to lack or reasoning. Stop trying to use the challenge to win your ex back. Talking to an ex does NOT bring them back....LOVE does. Ever heard a guilty person trying to prove how innocent they are? They end up looking so foolish they give up. Don't let this be you. You can do this. This thread alone is filled with thousands that have made it. Read the stories and mistakes of those that did try and fail but kept on going. Don't give up. Listen to the words of Proverbs Chapter 4 verse 23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do." You will be fine. You have my word. Your Friend, SuperDave71
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    All I have to say is that you are all amazing for taking my challenge. I know first hand how difficult it can be and to see you guys help one another is simply awe inspiring. Your Friend, SuperDave71
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    Friendlyfire, I actually think we went longer than 8 months and she contacted me. -SuperDave71
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    scwski, What is it that YOU want? -SuperDave71
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    Confused, Sounds like you are punishing yourself by believing he will change and ALLOWING him to take advantage of you by sleeping with you. Let go of the NOTION he will change and become who you want him to be. Look at the way he is treating you. He is getting what he wants...and you are allowing him to walk all over you. What are you getting? What is in this for you in a positive way? Love? I think you have you answer... 1st Corinthians 13: If I speak in the tongues of men and angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a tinkling symbol. And if I have prophecy and know all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And if I dole out all my goods, and if I deliver my body that I may boast but have not love, nothing I am profited. Love is long suffering, love is kind, it is not jealous, love does not boast, it is not inflated. It is not discourteous, it is not selfish, it is not irritable, it does not enumerate the evil. It does not rejoice over the wrong, but rejoices in the truth It covers all things, it has faith for all things, it hopes in all things, it endures in all things. Love never falls in ruins; but whether prophecies, they will be abolished; or tongues, they will cease; or knowledge, it will be superseded. For we know in part and we prophecy in part. But when the perfect comes, the imperfect will be superseded. When I was an infant, I spoke as an infant, I reckoned as an infant; when I became [an adult], I abolished the things of the infant. For now we see through a mirror in an enigma, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know as also I was fully known. But now remains faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love. Stay strong, SuperDave71
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    Hey there CIJAS. Thank you for the compliment. Is there any way you could breakup your post a bit so I can read it better? I will be more than happy to respond. Thanks again! -SuperDave71
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    Pace, Thank you so much for the kind words. **Remember this** You can do anything you want to achieve if you put your mind to it and believe in yourself. You can do it.....I believe in you. -SuperDave71
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    Fountain, Going insane is not allowed. I hope your situation has inproved. -SuperDave71
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    SweetSmiling... You need to focus on you. You can only change you and worrying about something that doesn't concern you right now is a waste of time and energy. You can do it... -SuperDave71
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