Mustangdood

ROTFLMAO I get alot of woman telling me I could have any woman I want lately, because I've been down and out and seem to be in a dry spell, as far as quality goes. But there is not a shortage of ugly/fat girl who wants to date me and will approach me, sorry if this offends any one but I need a physical attraction as well as a personality, so I start with the basics and what I have to work with at the time. Usually though if its a good looking girl I have to work for it and pursue her, which makes me think, am I the ugly one??or do these woman have me by the short and curlies??

So would you think that asking her out to coffee to maybe clear the air a bit is a good idea, or should I just wait till I get an opportune moment to talk with her and lay it all out there, I mean I would just start a casual kind of convo and some how work it in there(not as easy as it sounds), or should I just let her come back and get comfy talking with me again, which could be months I'm sure and hopefully shes still single. I mean I think if I at least ask its out there and I can move on or maybe get a date out of it. At this point I don't know why you women make us men work so hard for your attention sometimes. I almost just want to drop it and say whatever, I mean this is more work than I have put into any other woman, I usually have them come to me, so this has been a challenge, but I just know I'm gonna be humbled by this and then depressed.

Right on Brother...your talking to the choir now!! =D>

I'll try the short version for you guys, I have posted before but things have changed and I don't know where to go from here? basically I'm interested in this girl at work, we'll call her Anne for the sake of a label. anyways There was another girl, say Belle, who was really into me, like apparently she was love sick with me, I went out with Belle once and wasn't interested after that, and I then got up the courage to ask Anne out, she said yes. Between asking her out and actually going out, someone who was for Belle and I dating said Anne can't date me because Belle is really interested and thats not a good idea, so she blew me off before we went out. Well some time has passed and Belle is seeing somebody who she seems to be happy with, and I have sent flowers to Anne anonymously, but she found out it was me that sent them by now. So by listening to workplace gossip I think I blew my chances long ago. So should I just come out with it and ask her out again since circumstances have changed or is this a losing battle, what should I do. I am really confused on the best course of action here. and I should also mention this girl everytime I see her it drives me crazy, I think its pathalogical or something(just kidding for those that took that seriously). I already feel kinda beat here, and I don't want things to be too weird around work either, but it seems to be going that way. any advice appreciated. And I do agree with those that say workplace romances are not a good thing but I'm here now so, help me out please.

I met my ex wife at work...we were together for 5 years before we split, and we ended up not working with each other when I went back to school, but during the time we worked together it was fine. I'm sure there are bad exp out there, but statistically speaking most people meet there significant others at work.

ok...well basically what I have done is get a Hallmark. I'm gonna put a note in it saying the flowers are from me, and that I am still interested. I will give it to her personally, and not leave on car window or something stupid like that, so it doesn't look stalkerish. I have heard a few comments from people at work and it is kinda funny. She phoned the flower company to find out who it was from and they told her it was from a Natalie. So now she's saying she has a lesbian stalker..lol. But seriously she asked one of my co-workers if I sent it, so I think she may know but I'm not 100% sure. I haven't been to work yet since. After I give her the card and she has a chance to read it I will ask her out again so hopefully it goes well.

Does anyone else have any constructive critisism?? or comments??

Well the thing is I never got to go out with her the first time because of the other girl and whatever she said. Basically when I go back to work next week and I see her, I will ask her if the flowers were nice, but not directly admit to it I think. Maybe just mention "I wonder who they were from?" with a wink or something like that so she knows where they came from. Hey it seems cheesy, but sometimes cheese works right?? at least I hope so.

OK, long story short, I asked this girl out at work. She's a nurse. When I asked her out I had been on a few dates with someone else from work, but I was gonna end it because I wasn't really interested. Anyways when I asked this nurse out she said yes we had made plans to figure things out the next time I got back to work(what and where we're were going). When I got back somebody had talked to her cause she said she didn't think it's a good idea to date at work, I just said thats cool and left it alone. The other girl was kinda mad and wouldn't talk to me for a while. OK so thats the back story. The girl I had dated is now seeing somebody and doesn't seem to be mad anymore, and were all cool. Now the nurse that I liked, I get along again with her, we are friendly with each other again but I'm more confused than ever. An example would be she came to ask me to do something for her the other day, and I just commented on how I would do anything for her and that I have all the time in the world for her, which got me a smile. So anyways, I just sent a bunch of flowers to our work anonymously from me, I figure she may know who there from but I plan on keeping it a secret for now. So was this a stupid move on my part or how would some of you woman perceive this and how should I procede?? I mean do you think I could possibly have a second chance. Would it be dumb to ask her again or should I learn from the first time, I think persistance may be a good thing, but I'm not sure?? I gave this a couple months before I decided to make a move again.

Hey thanks for responding.....I do think I will take your advice and talk with the first girl and say I'm sorry it didn't work out..yada yada. Cause You are right about the gossip and rumors killing me. its been a few weeks since all this has happened so most of the workplace drama is over. I always had a rule of not dating at work, so I know where your coming from with this, but I slipped up, and unfortunately it cost me a date with a really great girl, but I've just carried on as if nothing really has happened and trying to figure out what to do next. Usually dating and woman have always come easy to me for the most part, but this is the first girl that has given me a challenge so I'm not sure if its the "I want her cause I can't have her," or I truly found someone that I really like?? But I do think about her alot so to me it is worth pursuing. This whole teasing or flirting thing just confuses me cause its hot one minute then cold the next...So I really don't know where I stand so it makes me less confident for sure, which is a real pain in the butt! anyways thanks again for your response....hopefully I'll have good news in the next while and I'll let you know how it went!

Yeah by the time I was 23 that is when I started to date a different girl...so it was only 2 by then, like the other guy said, thats pretty normal don't worry about it too much...you have lots of time for that, your still quite young.

This is my first post...so I'm making it a long one, thanks to all those that actually read it and respond to it. Well for the last three years I have been dating off and on, since my seperation. Now recently I started dating this girl I wasn't really interested in but she asked me out so I said what the hell! anywasy I went out with her for about 3 dates, and well the third one we kinda slept together which I felt bad about cause I didn't really like her...hey I'm a guy, give me a break. So now this other girl at work asks me out, again not really interested, but I'm insecure and need the ego boost, so I say sure, we go out to a movie and that is as far as it has gone to date. right around this time is when this girl I do like and have flirted with in the past I asked out because the opportunity kindof presented itself. I wasn't planning on it. she then says yes...which surprised me, but we were gonna set up a date the next time we both worked which we figured out. Now when this day came she tells me that she doesn't think its a good idea to date at work...so I play it cool and say "thats fair" and carry on....leaving that day the one I made the mistake of sleeping with totally snubs me which is fine I was about to make sure we were done anyways, but it tips me off as to why I'm not getting a date with the other one. I had no intentions of dating more than one girl, but it seems like I have been labeled a player. So I go on vacation and leave this mess at work for a while. Now I'm back and the girl I liked is still flirting and seems to be rubbing in the fact that I can't have her, she is a tease dammit. So I figure I play it cool and leave it alone, but she seems to try and get my attention which I have been trying to avoid doing, cause I don't want to come off as needy or anything. Anyways, I'm basically afraid to ask her out again, You only need to kick me in the balls once and I learn quickly, although I get these mixed kinda signals which I can';t figure out. should I bail and leave it alone or should I play this game? This girl has me hooked by the way I can't get her out of my mind, so I think shes playing me...but it is the first in a long time that has given me a challenge like this. sorry for the long post...and thanks for reading again.