hazel125

I guess it's only right that I finally put my story up! I was dating my girlfriend for about 3 years. We had 2 apartments together and even raised a puppy we refused together. First 2 years was amazing, 3rd year we moved to a new state for her first teaching job. I was incredibly proud of her. We loved the new fresh start and new things to do for the first few months. But problem was I had to find a new job since I quit my last one to move up with her. I eventually found a job but then quit because the hours weren't good. I began to get lazy, unmotivated and just really let myself go. I stopped paying attention to my girl and stopped making her feeling wanted and eventually she up and left me(2 weeks before thanksgiving) it was painful. I didn't listen to anyone's advice and begged her back until after a week I knew it wouldn't work, I texted her I agreed with the breakup and I walked away from it all. My dad is the one who called me up and really helped pick me up. He told me "Son, as much as you don't want to hear this, your woman had a great reason to leave you, look at what you became. You let yourself go after all the hardwork she did for you guys to stay living there and in return you gave nothing. Of course you can say you love her and she already knows that but no couple will survive if only one of them is doing all the work. Pick yourself up, stop all this bull sitting inside all day it's unhealthy. Go out and find yourself and become the man I raised you to be" From that day forward I changed, got a new job, got a second job, applied to finish my last year of college, started reading, working out (lost my six pack but got it back now lol) I made no contact for over a month and finally my ex contacted me, then we hung out and had a good time, second hang out we talked about both of our problems, then she told me she wants to work this out, third hang out I layed down our boundaries saying we can't rush into things and I won't be moving back in anytime soon. Although we aren't "official" yet. We chat everyday and see eachother twice a week and we are fully committed to get back together! couldn't be happier!

I'd wait bro, if you just randomly try to drop it off, she will assume your just trying to get in contact with her

Haha any advice is good advice! But if I may ask you? Have you ever regretted dumping someone? And would you have giving them another chance if they changed?

@marikamaine see, the fact that he didn't respond to you and your still wishing him the best.. that's awesome! You'll find a better man! Even if right now you don't think so, you will. My ex girl split up with me about 5 weeks ago. We had lite periods of LC but about 3 weeks ago I told myself to go NC because her responses just weren't leading anywhere. Some days she texted a lot but then there's days where she just wasn't text back much. I honestly didn't think she'd text me a happy Christmas. But this morning I woke up and she did she actually texted quite a bit in the message. I didn't text back, because it's not what I want to hear. I told her I can't be friends and if she ever changes her mind she knows where to find me. So im struggling just as much as you but it'll get better right?

If I may ask, did you break up with him?

It is now week 3 of NC for me. Unless you consider her texting me "hey, I mailed of the dogs favorite toy! Hope you got it!" I'm which I never responded