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Being friends is a whole different kettle of fish from being boyfriend and girlfriend for a really shy guy with no low self confidence. When he is your friend he has no pressure ,when he is your boyfriend then to him it means constant pressure trying to make you happy, make you laugh,make it fun,being a good kisser and he knows it will lead to other things. Sure im sure normal people feel this way to but for a shy guy its like 100 times worse. I have a friend who can just talk to anybody they meet on the street like its no big deal and when i tell him my problem with shyness he says yea im shy too.....that just proves to me normal people dont understand what shyness is. Back to the subject,if you really like this guy and think he is worth a bit of waiting then just take you time with him,make him feel comfortable and hell be more relaxed with the idea of yous being boyfriend and girlfriend.

The more you kiss him the more confident he'll feel with himself and after a while he'll be the one going in for the kiss 1st.

Everything you said sandbox is exactly how i am ,except im 26 ,i too have thought about killing myself but i know i would never do it as im scared of the unknown. I dont believe that there's a heaven where well all meet after we die ,and i think this is what keeps me from suicide,my life aint great,but there are worser things in life than not having a girlfriend,its loney i know and it can get depressing seeing couples together and thinking youll never meet anybody who will fall in love with you. If you are like me then you probably don't go to nightclubs and can't dance as you feel everyone is watching you,and the fear that a girl will ask you to dance and you'll have to turn her down casue you just cant do it or even worse you try to dance and she sees show bad you are and starts to laugh and just walks away. Im trying to force myself to start going to nightclubs as this is probably the best place to meet a girl but it ain't going to be easy. The worst thing about being shy is the pressure i feel to keep a conversation going and my mind just goes totally blank.