jaiva

Ur welcome Kitten. BBWolf don't worry about losing him. If he wants to go let him. He'll realize what he had and you'll have something better by then. If he doesn't treat you like the Princess you are are meant to be treated like then he definitely needs to go.

I love my ex to life, death and then back again. But if he can't learn to treat me better than we can never be ever again.

Jaiva

You should use a condom anyway. Not for protection from STDs but because the pill doesn't always work. Even if you take it correctly, which most people don't it can still fail. It is not 100% effective.

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I don't think you can fix it. However, you have now learned that you should never let your anger get bottled up again. If something bothers you let it out immediately. Tell that person off or express to them how they made you feel, but don't hold it in.

Ummm.. NO!!! Try rereading it.

My beloved has died

There was no funeral

No plot to shed tears

Nor pots of wilted flowers

My beloved has changed

Into this unknown person

Whose priorities are not the same

And don't mesh well with mine

Because of these grave discrepancies

My beloved went one way

And I another

Causing a part of me to die

So now my beloved has the freedom to be

Freedom he felt never existed

And I am left

Mourning the loss of my best friend

Jaiva

Yeah like Tigris said, wait for her to reply. And take it from there.

Well, it is his family. And because you are his fiance, you have to be there for him when he needs to talk. Just like you needed to get it off of your chest so will he. Only tell him how u feel about it if he asks. And if he decides that he doesn't want to have anything to do w/ his family because of this he will really need you to be there.

Once people get involved in drugs it really does affect their whole family. And you are apart of it because you are engaged to your fiance. So your fiance might be withdrawn because he doesn't know how to deal with the situation. So be prepared for that too.

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Jaiva

What you have to understand is that this woman will always be apart of his life because she had his child. And since they have a child between them they need to learn how to be cordial with each other and at least be able to talk about they child and all the things that include the child. If you begin to set boundaries on his relationship with his child's mother you may lose out on a good relationship because if he's a good father he will more than likely pick the situation that includes his child. However, you can let him know that you don't feel comfortable with the situation. And he should reassure you that nothing more than friendship will go on between them.

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Jaiva

Yeah I agree with Tigris invite him over and then see where it goes. Just be yourself and continue hitting on him the way you have been. If he ever feels uncomfortable he should be man enough to say it. However I'd becareful about hitting on him too much because of that whole sexual harassment clause at work.

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Jaiva

Well, one thing is he couldn't force himself on you if you didn't open the door to let him in. Don't answer his calls, don't talk to him. If you keep giving him your time then he'll think that he might be able to get back in and change your mind.

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Jaiva

For all of you who carry condoms in your wallet, and I'm sure your wallets are carried in your pockets am I correct? Well, carrying condoms in your wallets, if they are in your pockets, can damage them which can lead to pregnancy. So leave the condoms at home or find a place closer to room temp. to keep them which rules out the glove compartment in your car.

Yes, it is possible to be in a relationship w/o sex. We were in a relationship for over 1 1/2 yrs before sex. However, I think it will be darn near impossible to be in a relationship with no sex after sex was a part of it.

Like I stated before. The reason you do not believe that he has not been that angry with anyone else before is because he has self esteem issues and you sense that. He is not willing to get help because he is too afraid to admit that there is something wrong with him. Men are like that. They do not like to admit when they are wrong, or hurt or anything that might hurt their image. Do not worry about him. Worry about making yourself a better person.

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I believe since we had the conversation in which I told him that I did not trust him he has not had much contact with either female, however that could be because he has not been telling me. He said that he has not spent time with them since I told him that I did not trust him. But that was not because I did not like that fact that he was a hanging around with them but because I told him that I did not trust him because of how he acted when he was around them. I believe that he has not spent much time with them since he told me that.

There is a possibility that he will come back to you. He will not be able to find someone who he can use to make himself feel better. He might apologize for all that he has said to you and he might even bring gifts or whatever but do not fall for it because he also needs help. He needs to boost his own self esteem so that he will know that it is not okay to help lower others'.

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Why was my title changed? It did not have any swear words in it only insinuated a swear word.

He says that he feels that sex causes to many issues. He says I get upset when we do not have sex and that I get upset when he does not feel like it. However that is not true. I get upset when he ignores me. If he would just tell me that he did not feel like it I would get the point but when he ignores what I do I get upset. (Am I wrong from not wanting to be ignored?) And when I got upset when we did not have sex it was not because we did not have sex it was because of the attitude that he had which caused us not to have sex. He says that he just wants to eliminate the main issue. Which really gets to me because we always have issues about him and his darn video game but he never offers to give it up.

no not that sex was better before sex. the relationship was more fun before sex. I do not understand that.

You are definitely worth more than this. Each day you must look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love you and that you are beautiful and that you deserve better. That is to help you boost your confidence in yourself which will help you leave.

Another thing you must know. Verbal and emotional abuse are just the start of physical abuse. You must leave the relationship because he might actually physically harm you one day or even kill you. Your life is more important.

And please also seek professional help.

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My boyfriend and I had been having a few issues which i posted earlier. Some of the issues included his friendship with 2 particular females that I don't particularly like him being around. Well, we sort of resolved those issues. We came with the conclusion that I do not trust him because whenever he is around them and I ask him where he is he never actually tells me where he is which makes me come to the conclusion that he must be doing something that he should not be. Since that conversation things have been seeming to be on the up and up.

Well here is the issue now. He comes in today and tells me that he has decided that we are not going to have sex anymore because he says it was more fun when we did not have sex. FYI: I took his virginity about 2 months or so ago. No explanation or anything, probably because I did not ask for one yet because I was so in shock at his comment because we have had sex about 3 times in the past 2 days and each time he tells me how addicted to it he is.

So here is my dilemma. I want to trust that he is not getting it from somewhere else. But that is how it seems to me. Was he lying to me about how good it was? He could not have been if he was ejaculating right? I just do not get it. A little help please.

Make him do kegel exercises which will help him to last longer.

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I so want to say the f word. Forget what everyone is says. You are beautiful even if your face looks like it has been slammed into a wall and ran over by a car. Never give sex to anyone that you do not love. Sex is so much more than the act. Men will look at me when I am in my pajamas, have a scarf on my head and still have I eye crusts. Take it as a compliment not as them thinking of you being easy. But like I said forget about what everyone else thinks of you and just be the beautiful you that you are.

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Tell her that you will not accept that she is putting nude pictures of herself on the net. And if she does not understand that her body should be sacred and between herself and her lover then that is an issue that she has within herself. If she does not attempt to change then you should leave because who knows what else she would do for attention or approval?

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Well if I kinda look at all the threads I've started you'll notice that with college came many issues that we are still working on. Thank's for the happy anniversary. I guess things are better now than they have been for the past 2 months or so

Jaiva

UPdate: Hey we ended up going to the same college however there are more issues involved in that.