lostheart

Hi there, I have a question. I had a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years. Everythign seem to be going great. One night I had been very frustrated over a pair of earrings I had lost. I was very frustrated. When I was on the phone with him I was very frustrated at myself and said "say something to make me happy etc" The next morning he broke up with me thru email (saying its over between us and it needs to be a really long time before he sees or hears from me). It came very suddenly as we had planned to go on a trip THAT weekend. And the summer was planned with some concerts etc. I had no signs at all that he was unhappy, even the weekend before we had gone to a BBQ with his friends and everyone saw us as happy, it was happy. This was very sudden for everyone (his friends and my friends/family). We had broken up for 2 days back in feb (from a different case, but he felt that i flew off the handle as well). Other than that, we haven't had huge amount of fights. Its been 5 weeks since no contact. I finally sent a "how are you" card 3 days ago, but i haven't heard back from him. His friends (mutual friends) had told me last week when they had asked the question "you have been with this person for 2 years" his response: that he "really loved me" but when pressed that he should at least talk to me and get some closure he "groans." His friends said that he's in the "i don't want to deal mode" and feels that if he gets back we will argue and fight all the time. His friends told me he doesn't seem adamant that its over over. And his friends think that i'm on his mind. What is going thru his mind? Is there anyone I can just be able to talk to him? and put away all his negative thoughts? and is there any way to salvage this relationship down the line? As for now he hasn't made contact and I don't think he wants to talk. When his friends asked they can arrange a get together with him and I, he answers "nooo, childish way and physically curls into a ball on the sofa" He's coming 29years old. I agree and his friends think that either way he should at least talk to me and just get some closure. When will he be ready to talk?(when are people ready to talk in these cases?) Do you think there is still a chance of getting back together? And should i contact him (call) a few months down the line say for his birthday in nov? What should I do? I'm definitely trying to move on... Please give your advice thank you!

Hi everyone, i posted here before, and was wondering if I should break the NC after 5 weeks. We have had no contact whatsoever for the past 5 weeks. But i think he has heard and I have heard bits and pieces of each other thru mutual friends. My ex broke up with me after I was frustrated on the phone (dated 2 years). I was thinking of sending him a card of sorts. the mutual friends said that might break the ice? What do you guys think? He broke up thru email I feel like i have gotten no closure. If i send the card and I don't hear back from him, that may be enough closure ? please let me know what you all think thanks! or should I give it more time? (i still want to get back together with him. )

Hey All, So do you guys think -- is there any hope in this case? or not hope but does this look bleak? He is avoiding or hiding at all cost it seems like. Its been one month. I can't believe he broke up a 2 year relationship over email! Yup basically he broke up because I was frustrated over something I couldn't find. He helped me look in his car but it wasn't there... I asked if he could say something to make me happy (in a frustrated way..) he got frustrated at me and hung up the phone and next morning broke up with me. Its not like I cheated or swore at him. everything was ok that day and then suddenly next day its over. Is this heard of? very weird! your comments appreciated!

Hi All, My bf broke up with me after almost 2 years of being together. Things seem to be going great until one night I was frustrated trying to find something. He knew I was frustrated but he got upset that I asked him to say "something to make me happy." He hung up the phone. I tried to call him back but the phone was off the hook. I sent him an email that night saying I'm sorry and I loved him. The next morning he emailed me saying it was over between us, not to find him, and needs to be a long time before he hears or sees me (only 3 lines, very short). I contacted him shortly after I received the email and he hung up on me. I tried to talk to him in person after work but he refused to talk to me just saying he can't date me and that he's mad at me. I begged him (which I shouldn't have) to let me talk to him, he refused. Its been one month and he hasn't contacted me. I haven't tried to contact him. Since that night he has unplugged his answering machine and has not had an answering machine. I have attempted to call but I can't leave any messages. He's gone over mutual friends house and he seemed very "normal"--he's not sharing any feelings to them. He's cut off all communication with me. What can I do? I want to get back together with him but things seem so bleak...I'm trying to "move on" Is there anyway to help him contact me? please your comments are appreciated. What should I do? I'm trying to work on myself. Is there anything I can do to save this and have him talk to me? please help!