Blonde_Beau7

This love, was not my first love. We had been dating for about 6 months. He cries over me ALL the time. Especially when he knows he messes up. yet he still proceeds to lie to me. I dont understand. he can look me in the eyes and tell me lies??? this isnt love. just an obsession huh... idont know. He was so sweet to me all the time. He would do anything to me, yet he didnt trust me AT ALL. he told me bc i look so good and he knows that everyone"wants" me. or whatever. And then i find out that he was going behind my back the whole time. His ex was telling me that he calls her all the time and that he tells her that he loves her also. Yet he still loves me to. he said he would always love her bc she was his first or whatever. but i know that if i invited my ex boyfriend to stay with me. he couldnt stand that. Bc my ex boyfriend was my first as well. Im not sure what to think anymore. its so hard to brush it off. I dont know how to get this crud out of my head!! please give me some pointers on how to control myself like trying to call him and waiting on yahoo to see if he will get on. I just dont get it. Please help me.

Well guys, it has only gotten worse, i went up to the restaurant we both work at, and he was there ,with her!! so when he saw me he was shocked..once again. he tlaked to me then brought her outside to talk to her. only i walked over into the conversation. She was yelling at him, for lying to me! about her!! it was bad, he said he loves both of us. i told him that you can only love one person from the heart. the true love. and he just didnt understand. she had no idea that he had lied to me THE WHOLE TIME!!!! he freakin got caught again!!!!!! he lied to me more last night, then i had the truth told to me by her. She was not mad at me, she felt bad for me, and he didnt know what to do. he knows he messed up. This was so much drama. So i told him to leave me alone, and he said that he was going to come find me and see me.(once again ??) anywho, he told her that she had to go back home this morning in New Hampshire so that he could see me before my pageant. Well, why couldnt he have hung out with me you know while she was here. i dont know, he had planned this out the whole time. omg, im so upset..................

See, i would never talk to him again, but... unfortuatly, while hes busy entertaining his"house guest", hes telling me and crying to me about how its not over, after i told him over and over that it is. he said he would find me, well, its harder than it looks, he says their just friends but whatever. im hurt and i dont think i can handle this. please help!!! Blonde_Beau7

you know that is a marvelous idea!! i AM going to do that!!! haha, its cruel, but...payback is hell....right??????? lol blonde_beau

well, this past friday, my boyfriend (now Ex...heres why..) was to be going to his parents in college station,tx, he was 21. Well, you know ok cool call me you know... Saturday rolls around and... im driving to the airport to pick up some family for my upcoming Miss Texas pageant and.. guess who i see, driving his car with some "people" in the car...so i flip, knowing the jealous person that i am! and haul butt to his apartment. Well i get there just in time and put up behind his car where he perked, to see him with his roommate and umm..his ex-girlfriend..... He lied. It hurts.. he said he loved me orver and over and i finally got trust in him. then this happened. He was shocked.literally. And to this moment im shaking bc it hurt my heart so bad. We didnt know what to do . or what to say. Well his ex lives out of town, and she was down with her friend who may be going to college down here is texas. so the chic doesnt evenlive down here. And to top it all off, i dont hear from him that whole saturday, thinking he is where he is. And find out that he just got back from taking her to dinner..... oh geez. So , u know he calls me while im at the airport, crying..balling that is. And i kept on telling him that it was over. and asking him how he could do this to me. He didnt know(of course right...) and i told him he would never see me again. He refused that answer and said he would find out where i was and see me wherever i was, he would come after me. Right so this guy is a little obsessive... Well youknow sunday rolls around, and he finally goes to his parents right.. well he calls me from there and everything. but i didnt answer. so finally i called him today. monday, and his mom said oh... he left last night to go back to austin.hmmm yea, so i was contemplating what the hell was going on.. finally about 11 or so he calls, from his roommates phone bc his isnt working. And says "oh yeah i just got back home just now." and i said, oh yea from where. he said "my parents house." wow, and i caught him lying again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! can ya'll believe this!! i said, why are you lying to me , i just talked to your mom earlier this morning and she said u left last night... omg, yea, so he was of course,...breathless.. and so i found out he came BACK! home and hung out with her AGAIN!! bc the ex is still visiting. Then he tells me, i told her it was ok to stay at my apartment while she was down here!!!! when, in the first place i didnt want him to see or while she came down in the first place, then i find out that he asked her to stay with him!!!!!!!!!oh yea, what kind of stupid is this guy huh!!! I ask, why did u lie to me again!~!!!! he said, i dont know, i didnt want to hurt you... and i told him, you know when u lie, it only hurts worse, well he had to get off the phone and i said u wont ever talk to me or see me again. he said yes, yes i will. i said no you will not, and to top it off, i work with him at one of my jobs. Hes the dang manager!!!!!!!!! yeah. its pretty intense.. Please let me know what you think about this story, im still in tears, and would like your comfort...

The reason why we stick to the mean guys in my opinion, is because you know how you meet a nice guy, their well..nice. call u and give u what u want and love and attention.well The way ive reacted to a guy like that is kindof like..whoa kindof back off u know. go hang out with your friends or something. but he says he wants to see u all the time,24/7 night and day... well girls....were not really attracted to that like we want to be. Now, say we start dating this guy who... never calls, always tries to be with his friends, yet find a little bitty space for you. We dying for attention from them!!! right!! because they dont give us all that love and phone calls, were naturally attracted to gettting loved on, but when we get loved on, it may be to much. And.... when we dont get loved on were starving for it, so we latch on to the mean guy bc we feel that he will and that he is what we need. when really, if we had all that love and attention...we wouldnt be so sure of loving it oh so much.! well, the way i put it into words may not make complete since to everyone, if u have questions. feel free!! Loves Leslie- Miss Teen Hays County.