DoomsDave

Best friend of my now ex S(her) + J(him): Together since childhood and 6 years ago they broke up. J started using drugs after his brother died and S wanted to concentrate on her career as a solicitor. S moved out of the jointly owned home to a house opposite my best friend (this is incidentally how I met my Ex) S started dating one of my friends but this only went on for 6 or so months - He was a loser. J couldn't afford to live in the jointly owned home so S moved back in and J moved out. J left it a state to say the least. S eventually got back together with him 4 years ago after he sorted himself out and she had progressed her career and become a partner in the firm she was at. Ill ask next time we speak what their contact levels were during this period but I didn't know them too well at this time so its a grey area. I went to their wedding last year and they are the best couple I have ever seen. The way they look and act with each other is amazing and they just needed that 18months-2years apart to work on their own issues and become better versions of themselves. Their first child is due in a few weeks and I'm so happy for them. S said it was the best thing they had ever done and their relationship is so much stronger than it ever was. They let go of the past and started on a clean slate. It does give me some hope for me sorting things out with my Ex at some point. Even when we broke up after 6.5 years my ex said "look at S & J, they broke up and couldn't be happier now" I took a lot of insight from S & J. Im not chasing or begging for my Ex, we do have very minimal communication as we have shared friends, shared pets, mortgage to sort etc. I know she has massive issues to sort with herself and I have a few myself. I work on myself, if it happens it happens. If not atleast ill be a better person for my next love.

7 days and 6 hours. I miss my dog You said joint custody of the dog and giving her back 7 days ago was as hard as you leaving. The only positive i can take is that you looked awful and said you've had a terrible day. I'm ambivalent... I know your depression may one day lead you to the unthinkable, and on the other hand i'm happy that you're still not happy now you've left. You said you weren't yourself when you left and that you still aren't. You burst into tears when you came to collect a few pieces of clothes. You held my hand longingly as you got out of the car when i dropped you off at your new flat, tears streaming down your face. I knew when i dropped the dog off last week it could be the last time i ever see her, that dog held me together for the first few weeks, i wish the dog could understand.... she's always so confused. I said my goodbyes to her because i sure as hell cant keep speaking with you. It kills me every time. I know we will have to speak again. All your stuff is still at my house. There's the finances to sort. Your fish. We still need to rip apart everything we built over 6 years. I don't want to speak to you, because i know 'you' don't exist anymore. 7 Days 6 Hours