beckstar333

I wouldn't listen to that guy. Your special person in the world could be male or female. You have to listen to your heart and be open to what it is telling you. Perhaps you are just curious and a simple sexual hook up will cure you of your desire. Or maybe it is more than that. I don't know a lot of straight women who open the door to loving women because there aren't enough guys out there who are willing to commit. Most of them wait it out until they find one who is willing to commit. I mean, if you aren't gay then nothing can make you gay. If you are gay, nothing can change that either. You can try to control your feelings, but they won't go away.

I guess the good news is that you can have a comitted relationship and children with a woman, if you want. I am like you. I like watching str8 porn...am not at all emotionally attracted to men, but don't mind thinking about sex with them. However, I fall in love with women very easily and I enjoy sex with them. I consider myself a lesbian. I'm about a 4 or 5 on the kinsey scale. For now, I wouldn't worry too much about the labels. They are a little hard to swallow at first, esp. when a lot of us growing up where "lesbian" is bad...or nothing to aspire to. Just go with how you are feeling and let yourself explore those feelings. Your heart will tell you where you belong.

I would not listen to people who are going to attack you or make you feel worse than you are already feeling. Obviously, you are having feelings toward women. You don't want to cheat on your partner. You have a child you are concerned about. You have many choices, and only you can decide what is best. Seriously consider if you want to live the rest of your life never having experienced or explored your feelings for women. Do you think you can be happy doing that? Your child will look to you throughout his life for an example of happiness. Sometimes following your heart can be the best example you can give your child. Certainly, simply staying in an unhappy or unsatisfying relationship is not what you need for your heart or as an example of how to life live. Life is full of sacrafices. Either way you go, there is a decision involved. You might want to just hold off on marriage until you've got your mind made up about this. Give yourself time. As far as sharing your feelings with your co-worker...once you put it out there, its out there and the possibility of you acting on it may increase. If you aren't ready to cheat on your partner or dump him, you may want to wait. Wait until you are in a position to follow your heart, should your co-worker return the sentiments. Just my 2 cents. Good luck.