Great you're going on a date. She's in the kid in a candy store phase of divorce. Avoid anyone not yet finished with their old business. They're just looking for attention and validation at your expense.
Try to believe her that she's stressed and busy with her school. You didn't mess up. Just stay on the radar and offer to visit, see each other, take her out whatever, but don't suffocate or second guess.
That's the best approach. Document everything, put things in writing and try to keep it uncomplicated and make a clean break. Yeah court is ridiculous and drags things out.
Avoid him. Please get involved in appropriate campus social activities to make friends and meet others. You can try getting a good profile and pics on some dating apps.
Please see if there is counselling available on campus or privately for your poor self esteem and overly superficial evaluations.
Sorry this happened. At least she was upfront.
If she's in the throes of divorce,it seems more like you dodged a bullet. Please don't be her shoulder to cry on. Let her pay her therapist and attorney for that.
Are you still in the same country? He doesn't seem interested in a relationship especially with the distance and his interests in others. Please try to move forward. Please try not to be so judgemental about your appearance and others. It's not your decision who he wants as a GF.
So you want to try to work things out? It's much better to work things out with ower if you get your refund. You can't just drag people to court when there's no dispute.
Sorry this is happening. It's a difficult decision. However between the cultural, financial and other incompatibilities, you may want to consider setting each other free. Add to this the long distance and the relationship may fall apart naturally. Please don't try to be friends. When are you moving out of state? Perhaps that would be a good time to cut your losses?