OP, all that talk before you meet i.e. you're amazing, I miss you, can't wait to see you, is all fake. It's fantasy, not real. So expecting him to continue it when things get real (when you meet) is just not realistic.
lol How many times do we read here where a guy says I met this woman and she's great in every way but I'm not attracted and everyone says oh, not attracted? you cut her loose then. Same situation here. OP wants a man with the means to treat her well, not give his money to everyone else in his life and then cry broke to her. Nope. Nothing wrong with being attracted to a man with means.
False. I've done it. And more than once.
In fact, the (admittedly few) times I was instantly attracted to someone, it was very short-lived and burned out quickly.
This man is in his 50s though? Is he stupid? Going around sleeping with everything that moves, knocking up women, come on now (of course I question the judgment of the women too).