monkeyman

Thanks for your help you guys. How would I go about asking people what she's interested in? I mean it would be kind of awkward for me to just go up to her and say "Hey what kinds of stuff are you interested in?"

Okay, so here's the deal. If you read my past threads from October or so (yes a long time, I know) you'll know that I like this girl, who I have trouble making conversation with. I'm still pretty shy about going up to her in person, but that's not what I need help with. I talk to her sometimes in person, but mostly online. Usually our conversations are short. Now, I can start conversations, but they don't really flow. They just sort of consist of me asking her questions and her answering them, and throwing in the occasional "you?" but they are pretty one-sided. She doesn't really talk back. Is there anything I can do or say to make her feel more comfortable with talking to me? Please help.

I'm in a similar situation, and I say Go for it. The girl you used to like is probably glad you've gotten over her.

I'm generally pretty shy, but I think I'd go for it

Thanks for your help guys. I have an idea now of how to talk to her. Does anybody else have any input? I could use all the help I can get!

There is this girl at my school who I like, again. I liked her last year, and asked her out about a year ago. She said no, but I think it was because I asked too soon. I just didn't talk to her enough. This time I want to do it right. We both participated in Sailing this fall, after school. I sometimes talked to her then. By sometimes, I mean rarely, but sometimes. I'm really shy, and I get nervous approaching girls who have friends with them, which she did. Anyway, not sailing is over, and the only time I ever see her is whenever we pass each other in the hallways. She's usually with friends then too, but not always. I used to take the bus home from school, and that's where I would talk to her last year. But she doesn't take the bus very often, and I only have ince this whole year. My friend drives me home this year. So basically, I never see her. I wouldn't feel comfortable walking into her class's hallway during break, and just sitting down and talking to her. I'm way too shy for that. All I can think to do is say Hi to her when she passes. What do you suggest that I do? And what kinds of stuff should I say?

Nevermind. I'm back at school now, so I'll just go back to my original plan. She's never online anyway. Also, today she ignored me when I said hi to her.

This might just be me, but aren't text messages sent by phone? If so, wouldn't she only see the number? Are you sure she knew who it was?

So, um... I got her screen name, but I want to know if it's ok to ask a girl out that way. So is it ok to IM her and ask her out, or is it lame?

I don't have her screen name, or e-mail, or any online type information on her. Right now, my only option is to call her, because I refuse to wait until school starts again. Thanks again, for your help, all of you. I'll give calling her a try tomorrow.

These are the responses to my original post, that were PMed to me.

Okay, so the mods deleted my first post, because it had too many swears, so here it is again clean this time, and probably not as good, as it will be abridged, because I don't really feel like typing it out again. I like this, girl, Caitlin, obviously. All of my past posts have been about her. She is my friend, in school, pretty good friend actually, for a crush. I liked her the whole time, but all we were was friends, because I never made a move. I had a good chance to on April 25th, but I blew it. Now it is summer, and I still haven't asked. So now, I have to call her, which is a problem because I don't like to make phone calls at all, especially not with a girl I like. Well, last week I called, and she wasn't home. Her parents are divorced, and I only know her mom's house's number. She was out with her father. This might happen a lot, and I don't want her mom to think I'm stalking her or something. So I haven't called back. Also, what should I say to her on the phone? Any help would be great, becaue I don't want to let this go to waste, I really, really like this girl.

She goes to my school. I looked her up in the directory. I've called her before and talked, and we're friends, so she knows I know her number. She looked mine up too a while a go.

So are you guys sure its okay? Cuz, I didn't ever ask her yet, and school is out now. Damn, I'm way too ***ing shy.

Wow. I have the exact same problem. I think theother boardies are right. You just have to suck it up. What's the worst that could happen, she'll say no and you'll have to move on.