MissCanuck

This man is not your boyfriend, OP. Please do not waste time on these purely-online situations, and especially with someone you have never spoken to live. They are just not real relationships, and as you can see, they are totally unfulfilling. It is time to stop communicating with this person.

What I am reading here is that you are unsure if he is right for you, but you are having trouble admitting this to yourself. It is normal to have doubts and uncertainties, but it is also important to be honest with ourselves when we don't see a future with the other person.

She needs full-time work. Not part-time.

Let this be a lesson to trust your instincts.

I am going to guess this is not a real post.

Why is the bolded even a consideration for you? He treats you like dog crap and it's only been 3 months. What exactly makes you want to stay in a bad relationship? Are you afraid to be alone?

I am going to take a wild guess and assume you want us to tell you that he likes you. Your threads are all the same.

Do you want to date him?

Some men have big egos and are immature. If he doesn't have any concern about STIs, then whether or not you have kissed anyone else is not his business. Please do not entertain that line of questioning, and avoid men who treat you like a liar. Next.

Can you be more specifc? What did you say or do?

Eh, if it's going to be this hard to even meet her, I would not hold your breath for much coming from this. She doesn't sound ready to meet people. I get that she wants to be cautious but she also needs to understand that most guys on dating apps aren't looking for digial pen pals. You could try asking her for a phone call, but if she dodges this or instead wants to just keep chatting, I would wish her well but move on.

Nobody here suggested any of the above - especially not instantaneously. But what you are doing isn't working. You are no closer to healing and seem very resistant to anyone suggesting you try something different. What advice are you looking for if you won't really help yourself?

This is a very unhealthy relationship. Both of you need help for your separate issues before a real, thriving relationship will ever be possible. You are apparently accepting a lot of mistreatment from her, when you really shouldn't be. You need boundaries and better self-esteem, because her saying all these hurtful things to you is not acceptable. It isn't making anything better. You're only enabling a deeply dysfunctional cycle. If she isn't seeking professional help, there is really nothing you can do and you should not stay.

She is not trying to "find herself." She's trying to continue her affair with this man. You need to wake up, man, no matter how much it hurts.

I was about to say the same thing. At this point, OP, I would look into professioanl support. Venting about it here is fine, but it's obviously not doing much to actually work through your feelings and move past him.