is he gay?

[acousticlayla]

Recently, several of my friends and also my mother have told me that they think my ex is gay. None of them shared their opinion with any of the others. I'm not trying to stereotype gay people at all, I just wonder what some of you think about this. These are the reasons my friends have given me for their suspicions:

 

-He never wanted to do anything sexual, not even touch my boobs while making out

-His friends are mostly either female or gay males

-They just got a "vibe"

-He was a clean freak

-He was extremely fussy about his hair

-He's very involved in theater

-He mentioned on numerous occasions that he finds Jude Law very attractive

 

Each thing on its own doesn't really mean anything, but everything combined gets me thinking. I'm not trying to say any guy who likes theater or is a neat freak is gay, but I'm really starting to wonder about him.

[addictedblue]

seems pretty gay to me!

[acousticlayla]

He never seemed interested in me or like he really cared that much and I thought it was just me, but now I see that it's maybe all women in general?

[addictedblue]

He never seemed interested in me or like he really cared that much and I thought it was just me, but now I see that it's maybe all women in general?

 

interested in you physically, you mean? if you were lying there naked and he didn't want to touch you, he's probably gay. unless you're fat or something.

[acousticlayla]

Well I was never naked, he would always stop things before it got that far.

[addictedblue]

you'll probably get more feedback if you put this in the gay section.

[neolithic]

strangely, my first boyfriend turned out gay, he just really liked oral sex and anal sex from me. what? weird. so, it could be worse. but he sounds pretty gay, not to stereotype..

[Dako]

If he is gay, you're both in a better place!

[booberry]

Just wondering, why does it matter now that he's your ex? Or are you just curious?

[Master Sasori]

Asking myself the same question, what does it matter to you? But i think its normal people want to try to figure out what went wrong in their relationship.

[JadedStar]

Sounds like he probably is. This sort of thing happens all the time. Many young men and women will date as straight people before they can even admit it to themselves.

 

As for why she is asking the question, I would assume she is just curious. I would be if I dated someone a while ... it is not that one really is hung up on it, it's just that it can make you curious if you were close to someone and wonder "did i really know him/her at all".

[acousticlayla]

Just wondering, why does it matter now that he's your ex? Or are you just curious?

 

Yeah, I'm just curious basically.

[thelonelydoll]

My excellent gaydar says: he's gay. He's always been gay. Leave it alone now.