Do you find cutting helps or not, and were do u do it?

[safetydp]

I started smoking to keep from cutting as well, and, while yes, it unhealthy and whatnot, I feel like its better for me mentally. Do you feel the same?

[girl friend]

Sheesh... isn't that just trading one maladaptive coping mechanism for another?? I'd try to lay off the fags... isn't there anything else you could try? How about a sport? Or channeling those feelings into writing

[safetydp]

Yeah, I know its really not the best way to deal with it. Most of the time I do something else, either go to the gym or take a nap or a shower, but... well, sometimes it just comes down to that. And when I say "i started smoking" I mean.. like, a cigarette every 2 days or so, and when i run out, I am not going to buy more.

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

well i do know its stupid, i only smoke when im at skool and if i can get a fag otherwise i dont, execpt if im out with my best mate, but shes kinda really ill and in hospital at the mo, so my life as just got a bit worse and also my auntie who has cancer has got worse, but im really close to her so thats made my life alot worse, i do write poems alot of the time, smoking really now is to clam me down and focus me when im at skool, coz i cant face skool at the mo its really hard for me, but yeh i do think mentaly it is better for me!

[girl friend]

Thats the spirit.

 

Cling onto those things we love and are hard. For they are what is important.

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

thanks girl friend

[girl friend]

Hey Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal, how are you doing? How many days has it been without cutting?

girl friend

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

15 days without cutting so far, im ok, just stressed at the mo to many people im my life nearly dieing and close to death at the moment, cant cope with life, but im ok1

[girl friend]

Aw hope you're ok, if you want to talk about it i'm here ok?

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

thnx, im just finding it hard to cope at the mo thats all but im ok

[girl friend]

15 days without cutting is absolutely brilliant!!!!!

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

yeh i supose it is, i dunno people see it differently from other people

[girl friend]

Do you wanna talk about how you feel?! And it IS brilliant!

[indigo_scar]

Fifteen days is totally awesome, so dont let anyone make you think otherwise! If I managed that much I'd be able to bounce to the moon and back with pride! What is evident, is that you have will power. Keep using that to your advantage and you'll go far.

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

yeh 20 days now and counting lol, i think i just need to keep calm now and try not to worry, i hav my gcse exams starting this week and am getting even moe stressed, but im ok, im glad i can talk to you people on here u hav helped me alot and i am managing to build up myself esstem again i think so thanks loadz!

[girl friend]

You're gonna make it, i know you'll be ok

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

thanks its really nice having someone who believes in me

[girl friend]

Anytime

 

So what,'ve you been up2 these days?

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

ummm not alot, had my first exam today it went terrible lol, i cryed alot today in so much trouble at skool, and people being horrible, i stood in a toilet at skool to day and banged my had on a window till i felt better got a really bad head ache now and nearly broke the window lol but oh well, just need to get out of trouble. but i only need to make it 8 more days then i would of not cut for a month which is quite good for me, my ginny pig keeps scratching my arm, and people keep saying i hav been cutting and its really upsetting me, dont know wat to say whent they say that, they dont believe me if i say it was my ginny pig. so i dunno what to do now!

[girl friend]

It ll be ok. The nearly a month is impressive. Except, isn't head banging another form of self-injury? Your still doing well either way,

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

lol yeh it is lol my mate told me that and i laughed at her lol but it gave me a head ache so i stoped.

[girl friend]

Probably a sensible idea. There are other ways of coping, like allowing yourself to cry, channeling that energy and those feelings into something else, such as writing, exercise, etc, and of course talking to us or calling a friend if you feel your going to do it

[happywithher]

physical activity can be very helpful in relieving the stress that leads to self injury. for me one huge things was jiu jitsu kickboxing and a workout schedule that kept me busy 6 days a week. just gotta look into what you like and find something else. this worked for me it may work for others i dont know. i have also noticed now that i have a much harder time now staying away from self injury since i am unable to take any of my martial arts classes for the time being.

 

if you to know more about what i did and how this helped just ask

[girl friend]

Hey, Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal! how are you doing?

[Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal]

ummmm im doing ok at the mo, am at home on my own at the mo, and thats when i tend to hurt myself coz theres no one at home, so i decided i would come in to the kitchen, n go on my dads computer today instead of being on mine up stairs, but i thought i would come on here, n take my mine of every thing, watch a bit of tv at the same time, even tho i know being in the kitchen with knifes and things isnt a good idea, i feel a bit safe then if im in my bedroom, as if i do, do something n i pass out or something, when my parents come home they will find me straight away, wereas if im up stairs they will just think im on my computer or sleeping, and it would be a while before they would find me, but i hav a positive feeling, im not going to do anything, i just need to keep calm!