Another cliché coming out question

[Darkgamer]

I'm a 13 year old gay male and I need advice about what to do about telling loved ones about my sexuality. I've known that I was gay since I was 4 or 5 but I don't have a flamboyant personality and because of this most people don't realize that I'm gay. My parents are divorced (neither of them know) and I'm really having trouble trying to figure out a way to tell my dad. He only complicates things further when he sees women on TV and other places and says stuff like "there's the girl for you," or something like that. He is a pretty smart old man but I really don't know how he could react.

 

I just don't want my life to turn upside down if I tell him

[the_final]

I would I keep it in the closet until you are out of the house. Telling them now might just make things uncomfortable.

[Locke2121]

But it will also cause alot of stress for you. Is there a friend that you can trust, someone who will love you and keep your secrets?

[lifestream]

Are you able to confide in your parents? Do you feel they love you wholeheartedly? Have they ever had "the talk" with you?

 

I remember growing up my parents would tell me thing like "we love you no matter who you are, because you are our son." We had the gay talk and everything. It was a bit easier because I have a homosexual relative whom I look up to greatly.

 

I have a friend who came out to his parents, and it was weird at first but his parents have gotten over the shock.

[J6hn]

Don't do it the way my sister had to...

My Mum found in her user account on the computer searches in google images for "Lesbian Porn"...

 

I'm thinking you don't need to tell them. Don't consider it bad you don't tell them soon, if when they find out and ask why you didn't tell them sooner, just say they didn't ask.

It's far more accepted in todays culture, you have less to worry about, but keep it under wraps until there is a right time. It may come up in conversation, it may happen when you find yourself in a relationship.

But be honest with them and don't hide behind their expectations.

With any luck they'll be considerate and love you no matter what.

If your father is a smart, wise old man (I link open-mindedness to intelligence) he should be completely understanding.