true love story... she vanished from my life...

[connor21]

Hi, i really need to let this out. I'm goin crazy!

ok ok i know this is a long story, but pls i need to tell someone...

 

A few months ago a new girl had started work at the place i work. She is 18, and i am 20. When i first met her i knew she would be "trouble" (hehe )

anyway, me and her really got along well, and i felt there was something there. when me and her would work together, we would talk and joke around. we would talk about anything, about our families, our cultures.

we would ask each other when we were working next and we would both look forward to working together.

 

Now, this was about 1 month after we met, i developed a crush on her. i couldn't help it. i knew it was gonna happen from the first moment i met her, BUT I NEVER told anyone about it, cause i knew that it wouldn't work out because of this:

She is lebanese modern muslim (no head scarfs, etc) and i am lebanese with a full muslim name, but i'm not muslim.

 

So that is what had stopped me from asking her out, or doing anything about my feelings. I told myself to get over it, but working together 3 times a week with her wasn't helping. but i tried. i still hadn't told anyone and acted "laid back" around her. everything was going as usual, until she started making comments about me to other girls at work. not bad comments, but GOOD comments, like "he is looking good today" or "he is sexy", "he is hot", "he has nice eyes" etc. She would even do it in front of me, when i am around. but i never took it serious.

 

Then one night, me and another girl at work (who i am close friends with) were out, and she had told me that this muslim girl at work has a huge crush on me. i was just like "oh... really? wow, i can't believe it". BUT deep down inside my heart nearly stopped. i was shocked, i had no idea what i was going to do. my friend from work also told me that she felt bad cause it was a big secret and she wasn't meant to tell me. (This friend had no idea how i felt about this muslim girl). I just asked my friend if i had a chance of asking her out, and she said "yes, you do. but shes not allowed to, it's her mother that won't let it happen". what was i going to do..

 

the next day at work i acted the same, laid back relaxed guy around her. things were going the same, but i could tell there was something definitely there. but nothing could be done.

 

anyway, as weeks went on, i had built on a habit of seeing her. i came into work one day for lunch when she was working, and she was excited to see me. the signs i had gotten from her were so clear. it was killing me inside. i had to do something, so i finally ended telling a close of friend of mine. he said to me: "don't do it man, shes muslim, it won't happen. whats the point of telling her how you feel, it will make things worse, etc etc."

he was right, but i felt like i had to do something this, but i wasn't sure.

 

NOW, one day while i was at college, she was at work and she ended up having an argument with the manager. right there, she walked out and quit.

the next day i come to work and i hear that she quit, i couldn't believe it! i acted like "ah well, another person quit" but deep down i felt like s***.

 

she was gone from my life. till this day (it's been about 2 months since she left) i have never seen her again, and i think about her everyday, i am going crazy!! it is affecting my life, i'm not interested in anyone else, i just want to be with her. i have a feeling me and her were meant to be together.

this girl is perfect in my eyes and i believe i will never meet anyone like her again. i once asked her, "i don't understand muslims, how can you marry someone without being in a relationship first". she said to me, "its because we don't believe in playing around. we believe that there is someone out there for us, one person, like a soul mate".

 

this girl doesn't have a cellphone (not allowed to have one), she doesn't go out anywhere (like to stores, malls, etc) unless with a family member.

 

i just want to ask, did i go about things the right way? what could i have done about this?

 

i do have a way of giving her a message, through a girl that she is close friends with. i could easily see this friend of hers tomorrow and tell her to pass a message on to this muslim girl for me, but i don't know what to say. would it freak her out if she heard i want to see her again? cause i never SHOWED her i was interested in her from the first day i met her.

 

SO thats it, thats the story of my life.

any advice? should i try and contact her? would should i say?

 

thank you all =)

[Mar]

Pass on the message, is what I'd say......you were being honorable in not wanting to cause conflict with her and her family, but what's the worst that can happen? She could very well pass a message back that it wouldn't work because of her religion, but at least you let it be known that you sincerely like her and are interested. But I'm pretty sure you'd make her day, since the signs were all there that she was attracted to you as well. No one can predict the future, but work with what you have in the present. If it doesn't work out, at least you'll know you gave it your best shot.

[iamlearning]

I'm friggin shocked.. God, of course you should tell her.. You should of told her months ago.. BEFORE she quit..If you are in america lol then she can do whatever she wants.. If she really has feelings for you nothing else will matter except you.. Get in touch with her please.. You really should.. It could go well, it could go bad.. You will feel better though knowing that she knows how you feel. Do it, then post here and tell me about it..I really want to know how it goes.

[maynards_razorblade69]

YES!!! U must tell her how u feel. U really must. Dont let ne thing get in ur way. if u tell her, and she says shes not interested, or she cant, then at least she knows how u feel. if she is interested then, who knows what wud happen! just tell her, if hs ehad a crush on u then its bound 2 make her hppy

When you've told her, post back on here and tell us wat happened, u've got me caught up in the love story now! i hav 2 know. just get the courage 2 tell her, and u never know, she cud b feeling the xact same thing, and wondering if she she tell u how SHE feels!

Go for it! Hope i helped!

[connor21]

You guys are great, thanx for the replies!

 

i'm going to get her friend to pass a message on for me, i'm not sure what i'm going to say though... i'll think of something...

 

i'll let you guys know what happens

[connor21]

Your advice was great everyone, thank you.

 

I tried to get to her friend to pass a message, but then i thought about it... i don't want her to think i am using her to get to this muslim girl.

so when i was speaking to her the other day, i told her to tell this girl that i said hi and that i want to catch up with her. i don't know if she will remember or not, but yeah...

 

i have another way to get through to her, i got her house phone number from the book at work, and i want to get my sister to call up for me (cause if a guy called up it would cause alot of trouble for her). but she doesn't know i have her number, and i don't want to freak her out.

 

i am starting to sound desperate, but i really need to do something. i'm not sure what i can do, you know the story, it's there in my first post.

 

i don't want to leave this unfinished...