I finally understand

[midgetporn]

I just want to let everyone in here know the secret of being happy after a break up; You cant just sit around crying over somthing that could of been. What you should do is find a way to make yourself happy. It took me about three weeks to understand this, I was always crying,couldnt eat, couldnt sleep, and had trouble at work. You need a motive to get yourself through this. My motive is my son, from now on I will do everything in his interest, because it makes me happy to make my son happy. If you dont have a kid you need to write down all of your emotions on paper until you feel satisfied, yes it will take time; but you will overcome it. If you love your spouse and they didnt love you back, dont you relize its not a relationship? I may not be helping anybody but I helped myself. Right now if I help myself I feel like I can do anything now that my self esteem is back. You absolutly need somthing to motivate you to get over the relationship. I am now a happy person without my ex. Thinking what we could of been was a mistake because she wasnt interested in what we could of been. She was interested in herself. You guys need to relize a relationship is a 2 part deal, if one party isnt willing to make it a relationship; it really isnt worth your time. I posted this because im finnally happy and I might be able to atleast help one other person.

[millaj]

Great advice, thanks for sharing.. I am sure that some people will find this very useful.

[kate111]

I'm coming to that realisation myself.

 

It's better just over 2 weeks.

[kate111]

Oh and also, your actions become part of your self and how you see yourself.

 

So in other words, try to do the right thing, be the better person.

 

Hold your head up high and tell yourself someone better will come along.

[midgetporn]

I also want to mention, after being in a serious relationship you might not want to jump into a relationship right away. Sure it may make you feel wanted, but give yourself lots of time to heal. The reason I say this is because I still love the girl, just not the way I loved her before. It is a different love, I mean without her I wouldnt have the most precious thing to me, my son. Some situations are different if getting into a relationship is good for you, do it; but consider what has happened and also think use your head not your heart right now, you want to do what is in your best interest. I wish everyone luck with their breakups. You just need to be strong and hold yourself togather, do not bottle up your emotions but find a healthy way to express them! You are you and thats who you need to take care of the most because if you cant take care of you; You will have problems taking care of anbody or anything else! Take it easy for awhile before deciding on jumping into a serious relationship again.