Best friend stole from me.

[Silentlyfor]

I've found out that my friend has taken money from me. That my friend, who takes care of the bills, took an extra $100 from me for what he claimed as my share of the rent to pay his own bills. This guy is my best friend. ... My best friend.

 

I feel hurt and used.... and I'm feel so betrayed and I can't confront him about it because I found out by looking through is MSN chat history which is a violation of his privacy. I don't know what to do. I.. I feel so shut down.

[renaissancewoman101]

Do you give him a set amount each month for rent? If so, what did he do, take $100 from the set amount and use it to pay HIS bills, or did he ask you for an extra $100 this month?

 

I would ask him how he divvies up the rent money, like if you guys split half the rent and the rent is $1000/mo, then each of you should be paying $500.

[Ellie2006]

Ach. Sorry to hear that ...

Betrayal, esp from someone you trust, well ... blows, big time!

 

I am guessing you guys are roommates as well?

 

Did you suspect this was the case and check his MSN chat history?

In any event, I see there are two ways to address this (perhaps others can come up with other options?):

 

a) You forgive and forget BUT make certain that this does NOT happen again in the future by addressing common living costs together every month. When I lived with a roommate, I took care of the bills too and I handed my roommate an itemized list of common costs (like utilities and groceries, rent) so that there was NO gray area whatsoever.

 

b) You confront him but have to be prepared, perhaps, to lose a friend (and possibly, a roommate).

 

This must be difficult decision for you; sorry

 

Take care,

Ellie

[buddy manchester]

best to know now. if it only costs you 100 dollars to find out what he is truly like, then maybe it is worth it.

[jengh]

wow, that's rough... Are you going to continue living with him? Im sure you won't be trusting him with the finances anymore! I don't understand how some people can stoop so low...

[Silentlyfor]

No. This is my fault. I should have been checking the bills myself to see what I've been paying each month. For * * * *s sake, I'm Co-leased to the place.

 

I feel like a freakin' idiot. I depended on him.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Maybe it would be a good idea to ask for a copies of all the bills, you could say you'd like to keep better records for yourself. Then you'll see where all the expenses are from and know the amount you need to pay.