Help! What is going on?

[sk11]

I have only dated this guy for three times. He seems is very into me. And he never tried anything hard to get physically close to me… But I was not so interested and so rescheduled few dates and delayed replying his texts or emails most of the time…

 

no reply since then! (3 days) Is he playing mind games or just simply gave up? Will he contact me when he is back? Should I contact him if he does not? Should I give him stronger signals?

 

Sorry for the long text and thanks for any opinions!

[AwdreeHpburn]

so........you weren't into him so well, kind of blew him off and then suddenly changed your mind and he's supposed to what....? Just know that and be there at the ready?

 

I DO think he gave up....so YES give him stronger signals. Let him know you want to see him - maybe??

[Batya33]

I don't blame him for looking for someone who would respond to his invitations for dates. If you want another chance, apologize for your behavior and say that you would like to take him out for dinner to make up for it.

[sk11]

Thanks guys! But do you think that by going to his birthday drinks and meeting his close frineds is a way of showing that I am seriously interested? And also I said I wanted to take it slow and to get to know each other etc...

[Batya33]

I think it's fine to say you want to take things slow. It's not fine to continue to reject and cancel plans and then expect him still to be interested.

[sk11]

Thanks Batya33. I did reject his invite but only when he suddenly asked me out before the date that we arranged earlier and told him that I was busy... I am not very convienced that he wants me to be his girlfriend even on the first date! I want to take it slow, but his last minute cancellation and ignorance do put me off and leave me confused....

[sk11]

And plus he always texted me straightaway to ask for another date after saying goodbye... and it makes me feel really confused that he suddenly backed off...

[Batya33]

Early on it is typical for people to back off - it's just the reality of dating. . .

[Juha]

It seems you like to play games...

 

He told you he liked you, he would contact you and you have said you ignore him on purpose...

 

After a few times of this any man would decide you are just not worth it and look for someone who has interest in him...

 

It would seem you now have to prove yourself to him as he has tried to prove himself to you and you REJECTED him, more than once...

 

Playing games will get you no where...