I dunno, Ex's are just bad news (vent)

[musicguy]

I seem to have a problem with ex's of girls that I date or are in a relationship with. My recent break up was because she was still in love with her ex. Ex's can be the danger zone when one is in a relationship because both parties can still have feelings for each other and can go back out with each other. Personally, I don't like my ex's for my own personal reasons I mean they ARE ex's for a reason. There is only one ex who I am kind of friends with, partly because I've known her for 9 years...but I still don't like how she treated me back then. Also, If I'm in a relationship it's usually the ex's who have either threatened me or bothered me at some point.

 

How do you all of you feel about ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends?

Are you still friends with them?

[wishiknew]

friendships with an ex can't happen right after a breakup in my opinion, someone always still have feelings for the otehr and its just too hard.

in time maybe

[scared12]

i usually keep my ex af far away as possible, they are ex for reason, but with one i'm still friend. that means, when we meet we s hi, rarely we go out for a drink, but mostly we talk on a phone when is his birthday, or something really important happened, but it's only because we lived together 2 yrs. but i wil never go back to any of them. but often between exes there are still some feelings usually only from one side.

they were a part of our life once and sometimes it takes time to say goodbye

[renaissancewoman101]

I've been friends with an ex before, mostly because we didn't part on bad terms (he turned out to be gay), although I have noticed that bf's do feel threatened by ex's. My lst bf felt threatened by my close friendship with my gay ex.

 

Sometimes when breakups happen, people DO TRULY want to stay friends.

[Ellie2006]

Luckily (?) I've been able to remain friends w/ most of my exes ... it took a while for me to be in a "friend" state of mind w/ my most recent ex but I think we're on a good path to being friends again. I think this has a lot to do w/ the fact that I was always friends w/ my exes prior to us going out and we never broke up bc of reasons like cheating or abuse ...

 

It does take a bit of work, though, esp. in the beginning, to get over the initial awkwardness ...

[prettydance]

I'm not friends with any of my exes. Either they wanted to be more than friends or i did.

i feel that if it didnt work out, why is it going to work out as friends?

[malarivi]

I guess it depends on the circumstances...if u left on good or bad terms....i know for me I choose to be friends with my ex because we share custody of our two kids. But if we didn't have kids I would never talk to him a again.

 

M.

[ImThatGirl]

I am friends with most of my ex's.

 

You see, I created true friendships with them before the relationship started or during the relationship. I make a choice to accept them for who they are and will continue to consider them a friend even if who they are does not accommodate my wants or needs.

[Iceman26]

How do you all of you feel about ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends?

Are you still friends with them?

 

I don't feel anything about them except they were a part of my past. Once the relationships had ended, my contact with them ended.

 

I didn't date women who were friends or talked with their ex's, or date women that hung out with guy friends on a regular basis after having very bad things happen when dating women who were friends with ex's or had a lot of male friends when I was younger.