Porno

[Artistmuse]

My husband is a photographer. Two month ago I found that he was doing porno with his part time help-girl and it was 3 years behind my back. He was telling me when he was coming home after 4 AM that he was working very hard to make ends meet.... He is older than her parents, is still a student, he said he loves me and she was just entertainment

Also he is doing porno photography with his clients, sometimes I feel that even his look is dirty... It is not books or WEB, it is real flesh and after all he doesn't see me as a woman

[AwdreeHpburn]

why do you say he doesn't see you as a woman?

[Beec]

If he is looking and photographing and not particpating, then I doubt there is a large difference between him doing what he is doing and looking at porn on video or photos.

 

Do you think it has otherwise affected his behavior? Has your sex life changed?

 

And welcome to enotalone. Stick around.

[Artistmuse]

He never ask me to pose any sex or erotic images. However He loves this kind photography. I bought a lot Victoria secret stuff he doesn't see me,

I can put my legs on a ceiling he will not see. Once I asked him, you said all those photograph between legs you are doing for husbands, why you do not make from me for yourself, I have the same as has... He told me, I am not interested...

[sddeaston]

Hmmm. I can't believe all these guys who are married and could care less when their wife said something like that.

 

Heh, I guess its just me...but I would be there in like a half-second flat...

 

I think stuff like that is sexy, but even sexier when its with someone who you know as well as lovers know eachother.

[Beec]

It's possible that your husband is simply doing something that he views as a job and to make money, and of which he may not be happy or proud, but think he needs the money enough to do it.

 

It's also possible that doing it turns him off from the idea of doing it with you.

 

And it's possible that things are wrong.

 

I think you need to let him know it maks you feel insecure and to ask him how you can both deal with that.

[AwdreeHpburn]

Maybe you need to tell him how you feel. That you're hurt, a little jealous and a lot concerned. Just tell him this is how you feel and you would appreciate his attention to your feelings.

 

If you do not care for or respect what he does for a living, I can see that being a H U G E issue in your marriage.

[rocio]

He deceived you for 3 years. That's a bigger issue than shooting porn, IMO.

[Artistmuse]

Yes, we even had meeting with marriage canceller, he doesn't see this way.

A wife I guess for him can be as a parallel formal life with his privet fun life.

Porn is not his living, He is doing a lot of thing: WEB design, product photography, seniors, and family...

It is his fun part and he even use 2 mirrors ( MY GIFTS), to photograph Vulvas and reflections from them... It is hurt I bought them in antic store for his studio not for porno. What is more discussing this girl had a boy friend and she was spending night time with my husband for 3 years