Time rather than orgasm-based refractory?

[Cardinal]

I have a tendency to lose my erection during sex when stimulation is stopped. I noted that it always happened when I did too much foreplay (> 30 minutes for example). My only solutions have been to either use pde-5 inhibitors to help stay hard or to simply take a prolonged break from all sexual activities (go run an errand or something). Then come back and start fresh. That can be frustrating and annoying though.

 

I have noticed that the same thing happens to me when I masturbate and has for as long as I can remember. I keep stimulation going for about 20-25 minutes, then I notice things start to deflate to my chagrin, much like right after I have had an orgasm. If I let it die completely it can be tough to for me to regain (I have to take my concentration to new levels and possibly introduce new and different stimuli).

 

As far as I can tell this is not related to how high or low my testosterone levels are. It is also not related to how frequent I do things. I don't seem to be losing my mental arousal at all here either. The same phenomenon happens regardless. Why it happens is what eludes me? Is it some kind of biological response to keep from being priapic eventually?

 

Does this happen so predictably to anyone else? I Know many men can stay hard sans stimulation and sans drugs easily for a long long time. I am not one of those and never have been. This is like a refractory period that has nothing to do with having an orgasm and I just don' t yet understand it well. Any ideas?

[doyathink]

Doesn't this sound like a form of erectile dysfunction? Have you asked a doctor about it?

[Daddy Bear]

i doubt that it's an autonomic anti-priapism response; i've never heard of such a thing, and i'm a bit of an information sponge.

 

i've noticed a similar curious phenomenon in my own case as of late. i presume it to be temporary and ascribe it to 'romantic PTSD' due to a protracted and long overdue divorce under unusual circumstances (i won't bore you with details) after trying to make a proverbial silk purse out of a literal sow's ear for many years; and to a string of abortive, crash-and-burn relationships in breathtakingly rapid succession (and not terminated by my choice).

 

that, and i smoke too much, which is also a stress-related problem.

 

virtually every morning, after sleeping off the previous day's disappointments and necessarily abstaining from tobacco for several hours, i wake with an obvious indication that there isn't anything wrong with me physically, if you follow my meaning. from that i infer that there is neither organic damage nor hormonal etiology for this apparently transitory--and i hate to use the word--dysfunction. i have no doubt that once my life's ship is righted again and i kick the butt habit, this deflating nuisance will be behind me.

 

does it sound as though my situation bears any sort of relation to your own?

[Cardinal]

doyathink No I haven't. I'd be hesitant to label this as ED personally as I am still fully functional. I personally don't think it is at a point where a viagra script might be warranted. I don't know if there is any correlation, but I have very poor circulation in my hands and feet (they get much colder than other peoples seem to get both summer and winter).

 

slightlybent: Not quite. Sounds different I don't have near the stress in my life as you do. I am going on 27 and can't really say I have many bad habits. I am glad you recognize where some of the trouble likely is for you. Makes things easier to fix.

 

Though I wasn't notably sexually active, I can remember this happening in my mid to upper teens to a much lesser extent. I would notice it during extended masturbation sessions. At that time it was a very minor nuisance. While it may not be related to how frequently I get off, that might explain why it is worse now than in my teens (that combined with slightly less responsive hpta axis). I always used to do it once a day throughout high school and college. Rarely deviated and rarely went for more than once. Now I am batting 1-3 times per day. So that may impact it honestly.

 

It is kind of frustrating to know how crazy strong my drive is, but to also be limited by the inability to maintain an erection after a certain point. I managed 4 times the other day and had the mental drive to go for a fifth or maybe even 6th. But the physical ability just wasn't there darnit

[doyathink]

LOL...C, Read my sig...

[InaneCathode]

Masturbate for 20 minutes straight? Is it still attached?

[sddeaston]

hahahahahaha, doyathink. Funny

[Cardinal]

I knew I would get a lot of crap once you all picked up on the 20 minute thing. All I can say is I have a slow internet connection.

[InaneCathode]

I knew I would get a lot of crap once you all picked up on the 20 minute thing. All I can say is I have a slow internet connection.

...........

Rofl

[doyathink]

Masturbate for 20 minutes straight? Is it still attached?

 

LOL, I was thinking the same thing but I thought hey, this guy must have huge arms by now...hehe.....LOTS of stamina...

[InaneCathode]

LOL, I was thinking the same thing but I thought hey, this guy must have huge arms by now...hehe.....LOTS of stamina...

 

my gf does, at least her right arm <_>

[gattsuga]

maybe you need to just work your PC muscles... or do some kind of kegels. if your sex drive is still normal, and you have no problems getting it up, maybe your muscles are just too weak to sustain you longer than 30 mins

[Cardinal]

maybe you need to just work your PC muscles... or do some kind of kegels. if your sex drive is still normal, and you have no problems getting it up, maybe your muscles are just too weak to sustain you longer than 30 mins

 

I am thinking it is something else. Right now my pc muscles are strong enough to allow for multiple orgasms. The muscles could be playing a role though.