betrayedgirl Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 It has been almost 2 months since he broke up with me. I am much better now, however at times I have bad days. Yes, there is life after breakup! In 15 days I fly down to Florida for a long weekend and then first week of December I am flying down to Hawaii for a week just to hang out and I'm excited!! So that is what is lifting my spirits! I find myself missing him at times, but I don't really think I miss HIM, just missing being in a relationship or something? This makes sense? I even told my therapist that I miss him .. she says no you don't miss him, you just miss the idea of him. Which is pretty much true. I still have little anger left towards him altho it's fading away for the way he broke up with me. He is a good guy but just was awful at breaking up! So do you miss the person or the idea of being with someone? Thanks for your answers! Link to comment
skyjuice Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 Hi Good to hear that you are going for vacation. I also want to go, bring me. Haha...just kidding. Yes, I miss him,not the idea of him. Just my thoughts. Link to comment
betrayedgirl Posted October 25, 2006 Author Share Posted October 25, 2006 well, it's hard to definite missing him... because I did not like how he treated me after breaking up with me like he did and I don't think I want him back! Link to comment
2lil2hurt Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 I do miss parts of him but I also wonder if its the idea of him cause we left off on bad terms. I almost feel like I dont even know who he is anymore cause his behavior came completely unexpected. How can i miss someone I dont even know? Link to comment
betrayedgirl Posted October 25, 2006 Author Share Posted October 25, 2006 OH yeah I know what you mean, 2lil2hurt! This breakup was very unexpected as well! It was the last thing I expected from him! Link to comment
DG9 Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 i definitely miss him too... i was supposed to go on vacation back home but im not taking the trip becasue i know i might bump into him and im too scared to hear what i dont want to hear if i see him... part of me doesnt want to stop missing him... does that make sense? Link to comment
shikashika Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 I miss him... and I miss our relationship! both for me! Link to comment
Derailed Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 How can i miss someone I dont even know? This makes a lot of sense to me. Like most of you, my ex was fantastic in the relationship, but turned into a totally different person post break-up. I think I miss my ex, but not my ex as he has become now. I miss the idealized version of him, the one I put on the pedestal. Link to comment
JIzzyM Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 I miss him. Just him. Yes, the relationship is missed as well, but more than anything I just miss him. Yes, I see him and he is sitting next to me watching tv right now (we still live together), but I miss being with him and sharing our lives. Link to comment
whoops Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 i miss him but i know it was for the best - he tells me he misses me but like all of you i think it is just the idea of me as pre break up he disappeared - emotionally - oh well! We gotta get on with our own lifes. Link to comment
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