markfromark Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Are you someone with a very clear vision of your life? Have you tried to date someone who also has a clear vision of his/her life? Do you think it is possible to have a relationship if your vision don't line up? I think couple who get together in their 20s have it somewhat easier because they can develop their way of life together. When people in their mid 30s or later try be in a relationship it seems to be much harder to find someone to *fit* into ones life. So either you find someone who adapts more or less or you find someone you matches perfectly. Any thoughts? Link to comment
hazlcha Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Good points, I think. There is a certain growing difficulty as you get "set in your ways" in opening your life to someone else. That is countered by the increasing desire to finally settle down that may make the couple work harder to overcome their differences. I've found that the hardest age girl for me to date is around 28. Not yet feeling too much pressure, but getting accustomed to being independent. I suppose I was - and may still be - the same way. Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 I agree. i think relationships are harder in your 30's because you are more set in your ways. Also, if you are in your 30's and still dating you have pretty much seen it all (or at least i have..lol) and my tolerance is much much lower then it was when i was in my 20's. Link to comment
Beec Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 I found it much easier as I got to and passed 35. I really rarely was without someone to date, had a few relationships with wonderful and grogeous women, and then found the one. So, I must disagree. Link to comment
Down-In-A-Hole Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 I would disagree. How does one expect to have a successful relationship of any sort without a firm knowledge of self beforehand? Isn't the favorite motto in verious self-help books claim that "you must love yourself before you can love another?" Link to comment
Batya33 Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Knowing yourself is not the same thing as set in your ways. I know 20 year olds who are rigid and 40 year olds (like me!) who are constantly learning and open to learning (especially from my significant other, a very wise and insightful person indeed). Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Knowing yourself is not the same thing as set in your ways. i couldn't agree more. Link to comment
Momene Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 I've found that life throws changes at you (good and bad) even into your 50s, so I don't really see the point. My reality now and my vision 30 years ago are totally different. I couldn't have imagined discussing problems on the Internet for a start! Link to comment
Jane0815 Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 Ah, well, I think you've got a bit of either/or thinking going on there. The others here have rounded it out a bit for you. Right now I seem to meet a lot more men than I did in my 20s. Most of them are ready to settle down and start families, which isn't what I want. Have you heard of the third-date rule? These guys aren't in any hurry for sex - the third date is when they introduce a woman to mommy. Link to comment
Momene Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 I actually found I became almost a babe magnet when I turned 30 and was always considered a nerd before. Link to comment
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