He keeps breaking NC. I'm afraid he's wearing me down.

[Imperceptible]

I broke things off with a guy. I decided to go NC after I saw his new girl. I stopped going to concerts and bowling and dinner with him. I stopped answering his calls. But he still calls me. He left me a message and he emailed me and talked about how he had trouble getting in touch with me. He texted me twice "Everything ok?" "where r u?" this week when I didn't reply to his messages or texts. He's making NC hard. I know he's no good for me but one of my friends got married this week, another friend is in a new serious relationship, one keeps talking about her upcoming engagement, and I feel alone. How can I do NC when he's making it hard to do NC?

[annie24]

he'll quit as long as you keep ignorning him. block his number.

[Imperceptible]

he'll quit as long as you keep ignorning him. block his number.

 

It's been a month and he hasn't given up.

 

He hangs out at the same places I do. I've been avoiding those places. We have 2 mutual friends. I avoided parties thrown by these 2 friends. Now it's getting annoying because I miss those places. My friends are getting annoyed too. NC is taking it's toll on me.

[nottoogreen]

This is the FWB guy? Just keep ignoring him. Make a NC journal here if you like. We read it and encourage you!

[Imperceptible]

Yes it's the same guy. I for the life of me can't figure out why he keeps trying to contact me when I'm trying to do NC!

 

Can i do NC and hang out at my usual places with friends or should I continue to stay away from these places? I'm new to NC and I need advice on gray areas. Once I went out to my favorite Italian restaurant with my friends he showed up at my table with his coworkers! I didn't want to ignore him and look immature in front of my friends and his coworkers so I engaged in very light chit chat. I didn't want to risk breaking NC again so now I avoid these places at all costs.

[annie24]

block him. seriously. it will stop as long as you don't pick up.

 

however, if he calls you 19 times and on the 20th you pick up, he'll simply learn he has to call you 20 times to get a response. don't teach him that habit.

[nottoogreen]

Be yourself, be determined!

 

Hang out wherever you like. Ignore him. If he talks to you be civil and cool, tell him you do not want to talk to him. If he does not respects that, it's harassment and you can deal with that through the authorities.