capblueberry Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Ok my self esteem right now is bout -10 I've never been in a good relationship, simply because of my self esteem, its a cycle 2 years ago someone flat out called me ugly and thats wat did it for me and even today i sometimes get "jokes" bout my looks, they say that they're joking but it makes me mad link removed theres a pic of me, just for reference, what u guys think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rose2summer Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Hi cap, Sometimes our self-esteem will take a blow, when someone says something degrading or acts a certain way. Someone calling you ugly was vindictive and disrespectful. First of all, you are attractive and second of all, a mature adult would never call another ugly. I think that shows a lack of character on their part. Have you tried counseling to work through your body image? It may help immensely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
capblueberry Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 it was actually a girl that said it, so it really threw me wen she said it...it was actually said many times over a couple month period Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AwdreeHpburn Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Cap - could've been a zillion things that made her say that to you. It certainly isn't your looks - maybe more like an achilles heel type thing? - She hit where she knew it would hurt most? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
capblueberry Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 thanks guys, i needed that but not just saying that though r u? lol ne one else have something to say? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boughtandpaidfor Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Nothing anyone else can say can improve your self esteem- probably you wouldn't believe it anyway. Anyway- I feel the same as you- I hate myself a lot of the time. But what I always tell myself is- I'm noone's responsibility but my own. No one else is going to do anything for me- cos they're busy looking after themselves. So I may as well look after myself- and y'know, like myself. Difficult though!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Managor Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Having low self esteem often makes it easy enough to focus on all the bad things that are said about you, to exaggerate things and to disregard compliments as pity and the like. For example, focusing so much on one person saying you're ugly, whereas you've had a few compliments to counter that which you may have quickly ignored. I'd suggest seeing a counsellor to try and work on those negative ways of thinking so that you can look at yourself and things in an unbiased light. Also, don't take this to mean I think you're ugly, I don't, but I noticed in the picture you have a little bit of acne. If you're worried about your appearance so much, you could try using wipes, creams, and if they don't work medication to get rid of the acne? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms. Babydoll Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I think you look fine, there is nothing wrong with you! Everyone has low self esteem in some stage of their lives, I think you should maybe put yourself out there. Do something exciting and new, involve yourself in more activities, maybe then you will build up your courage and you'll think more of yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I've been called ugly as well. And other things that make me feel completely unbeautiful. Maybe it gets easier as we get older...I'd hope so! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
capblueberry Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 yea that picture is couple months old, my acne is about cleared up since then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
capblueberry Posted August 30, 2006 Author Share Posted August 30, 2006 I've been called ugly as well. And other things that make me feel completely unbeautiful. Maybe it gets easier as we get older...I'd hope so! o god i hope so lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nottoogreen Posted August 30, 2006 Share Posted August 30, 2006 Try this: Accept Your Body and Learn to Have a Positive Self Image And this: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
capblueberry Posted August 31, 2006 Author Share Posted August 31, 2006 thanks green Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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