PRSOV Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 Now I know how important it is to a women that the man says her name when he orgasms when receiving a hand job from her or during having sexual intercourse... I had an experience a few weeks ago where I experience my first O through a hand job of a special girl that I had liked for a very long time... and when I did I used her name which I was glad I did because It showed that I was only thinking about her and not my ex's and she said I would have been in a lot of trouble if I didn't in fact use her name My problem is that in the fact that it is great that she showed me what I was missing out on [i never use to m.bate before this] everytime I do it myself I always think about her and everytime I climax I call out her name and say how much I want to be inside her to myself afterwards... I have said it so many times afterwards now that it has just become a habit and I can't stop it no matter what Sometimes I worry about it and think it is a little unhealthy incase that she is not my next sexual partner... but I can't control it... Should I be worried about something like this? Not sure... Link to comment
Scotcha Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 I certainly don't think about ex lovers when I'm with my boyfriend. (Or all by myself for that matter.) I'm sure that when you are experimenting with a new sexual partner your thoughts will be on them. Link to comment
WildChild Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 No, I don't think it is unhealthy. People fantasize, and that is what you're doing...almost like a stimulant. I think it's good that this experience has drawn you "out of your ex" and has allowed you to become interested in someone else. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 I think that's wonderful. Really. You are truly enjoying her and the experience of getting to know her on that level. Don't worry about later. Scotcha said it. Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 OMG no male has ever said my name when the big O comes! How sweet! anywayz, i dont think its unhealthy either, do you think your feelings for her are quite strong and you want to be with her and stuff? or do you think this is just a bad habit (in the sense of you calling out her name and stuff)? Link to comment
shes2smart Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 Now I know how important it is to a women that the man says her name when he orgasms when receiving a hand job from her or during having sexual intercourse... Uh...maybe important to the women you've been involved with, but I don't know that it's valid to assume it's something all (or even most) women want. Never had a guy I was with do that, and it's never bothered me one bit. Now that I think about it, I don't know that it's something I would personally find desirable. Link to comment
PRSOV Posted April 22, 2006 Author Share Posted April 22, 2006 OMG no male has ever said my name when the big O comes! How sweet! anywayz, i dont think its unhealthy either, do you think your feelings for her are quite strong and you want to be with her and stuff? or do you think this is just a bad habit (in the sense of you calling out her name and stuff)? I just love her so much thats why I always fantasize about her all the time, and that's what I think is unhealthy :S Link to comment
Scotcha Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 I don't think it's unhealthy at all and sounds rather normal to me. Enjoy! Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 Thats strange...all the people Ive ever been with, no one called out anyones name at any point, giving OR receiving orgasms! I'm glad no one ever did..it'd just have been comical to me and a mood wreaker. I think you should get out of the habit of calling out anyones name out, then youll never embarress yourself or anyone else Link to comment
WildChild Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 I just love her so much thats why I always fantasize about her all the time, and that's what I think is unhealthy OK, did I miss something? I was thinking you were calling out this new gal's name/fantasizing about her, or do you mean your ex Link to comment
shes2smart Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 Thats strange...all the people Ive ever been with, no one called out anyones name at any point, giving OR receiving orgasms! I'm glad no one ever did..it'd just have been comical to me and a mood wreaker. Yeah, I think I might've busted out laughing at an inappropriate moment. It's almost too romantic-movie-cliche, and I've never gone for that kind of thing. I think you should get out of the habit of calling out anyones name out, then youll never embarress yourself or anyone else Miss Manners says that's why the pet names, "honey" "baby" "sweetie" "darling" "dearheart" etc. were invented. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 Are you in a relationship with this girl? If not, I can see why it would be unhealthy. You have feelings for her, and it could only hurt you worse if nothing more happens from it.. and your feelings are only going to get stronger, espeically if you are having sex with her. But if you are in a relationship with her, then I don't see why it would matter. And I'm also one of those girls who doesn't really care about the name calling stuff. If my boyfriend does say my name, it's cute and all, but I don't really think much of it if he doesn't say my name. But I suppose every girl is different. Link to comment
Lunabelle Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 Now I know how important it is to a women that the man says her name when he orgasms when receiving a hand job from her or during having sexual intercourse... Should I be worried about something like this? Not sure... No, in my opinion you should be far more concerned with your stereotyping and generalizations (nod to DN). I couldn't care less what my partner says, as long as it isn't someone else's name! Again, my opinion, but if you are worrying about what you might say with your next sexual partner, you've got no business having sex with this one! And finally, habits are just that -- a habit. You can certainly change any habit if you actually want to. Not to say it won't be difficult, and painful. But it certainly is possible. Link to comment
Lunabelle Posted April 22, 2006 Share Posted April 22, 2006 Yeah, I think I might've busted out laughing at an inappropriate moment. he he he....so I'm not the only one...sometimes it's just so fun! Link to comment
PRSOV Posted April 22, 2006 Author Share Posted April 22, 2006 OK, did I miss something? I was thinking you were calling out this new gal's name/fantasizing about her, or do you mean your ex She isn't my gf, but isn't my ex 100% we are still trying to work things out... Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Have you had sex with her before? And I dont find it weird about the calling out names, most of my friends bfs call out their names, and they say its a turn on! *shrugs* as i said before i wouldnt know ive never had someone say it to me! Link to comment
PRSOV Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 No we haven't had sex before, It felt good though after I did use her name though... I thought more people did do it, like to show that they are only thinking of their partner Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 hmmm ... thats a tough one then ... Well i thought it was me who was weird as none of my ex's have said it! LOL! How inbetween ex & gf are you? Link to comment
PRSOV Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 She isn't ready for a r.ship yet but she says she wants me to wait for her, but I don't know if I can do that because I am worried that she will find someone else while I am waiting for her... that kind of thing etc Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Your worried she is just dragging you along as an incase? Link to comment
PRSOV Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 I don't know... We have been involved together for a long time... She says she won't date anyone else in the mean time because she just wants me, I just get this feeling that it's a lie. She is such an attractive girl and she always has loads of guys after her. It's like my first love and I only feel comfortable being with her. Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 hmm ... sorry bout all the questions but ... how long you been waiting? Link to comment
PRSOV Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 A month or two, but she says it might take a few months for her to sort herself out to be with me... and I do want to wait for her, I only want her... I just don't want to get hurt again. We always talk, sms and chat on msn... too Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 what is she sorting out? like job related things, studies, family, or just what se explains as "personal reasons"??? Link to comment
PRSOV Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 She has a bad history with guys, being used etc... but still she knows I have been so good to her over the past year I have known her even when we were just friends... she just says I am too messed up in the head at the moment to be with you.. My ex gf who has bi-polar also keeps telling her that shes still in love with me which really doesn't help at all, but I haven't spoken to her in eight weeks or so now... so hopefully that is good enough, and she knows I never really had any feelings for my ex. Link to comment
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