How to go on....

[Ontario_Rider]

I'm not having a life right now, I'm just existing. Hubby went nuts/drunk, I wouldn't let him in the house, and called police. Police have 8-9 charges, depends on who you talk to and has issued a no-contact order. It's already been to court and remanded once, court is again this Friday and I'm told it will be remanded again. Nothing like a long torture. We've been married for over 12yrs, one child. He's not even calling our child-which he is allowed to do, I'm assuming ole drunken Mother won't allow nut-bar to use the phone. I don't know what info he's getting or not getting, I feel like he isn't asking questions so they aren't telling him. He is able to lift the no-contact order in court, but he's never asked about it, according to his lawyer, and of course they never mentioned it. To top it off, my car's engine fried the week before he had his 'mid-life crisis'. So... that means I can't get to town for legal aid. AND since no contact, I can't sell anything-house, livestock, etc. I'm trying to anyway. What do they think I'm living on?

It's been 6 weeks now and I thought it would get easier and it's not. I don't see a future as I feel if he wanted to, he would have called to say sorry or anything.

I faxed his lawyer a letter saying since he's had the 6 weeks to get his stuff, he had til this Sat. or it was my property. So far, no calls from lawyer, they'd think they would at least acknowledge I sent a fax.

Thanks for listening

[DN]

I can't comment on the other legalities but I am fairly sure you can't keep his stuff even if you sent that letter giving a six week deadline. I would be very careful in doing anything that may backfire on you in any future court appearances.

[WildChild]

I can't comment on the other legalities but I am fairly sure you can't keep his stuff even if you sent that letter giving a six week deadline. I would be very careful in doing anything that may backfire on you in any future court appearances.

 

I agree with DN. In addition, there is emergency assistance and if you have access to a telephone you can contact them for what resources there are to assist you and your child.

[Ontario_Rider]

I agree with DN. In addition, there is emergency assistance and if you have access to a telephone you can contact them for what resources there are to assist you and your child.

I faxed the letter SINCE he hadn't picked up his stuff and if he didn't pick it up BEFORE this Sat. it was mine. My lawyer said I shouldn't have to 'store' his belongings in the house.

You'd be surprised what isn't available to people. I'm in a rural area and most of the organizations are in the city and all I get is sorry we don't do your area. The best they've come up with is to leave to a shelter, BUT have warned me they will charge me with abandonment of the livestock, IF I leave. So not sure what to do. Most likely will end up surrending thousands of dollars of livestock to the SPCA so at least I don't have to feed them, THEN I'm told hubby can charge me, I have to pay HIM half of fair market value. I've never seen a system like this.

[WildChild]

Isn't there any kind of legal aid that can assist you in some type of expedited process?

[Ontario_Rider]

Isn't there any kind of legal aid that can assist you in some type of expedited process?

That's the joke of it, I don't qualify for legal aid as I have a house. I've called a number of lawyers yesterday and today to see if I can put a lien on the property. So far, no one has returned calls.

AND I get a fax from his lawyer, he has a nice expensive lawyer cuz MOMMMY is paying for him, stating:

I have attempted to contact Mr. * * * * Head by telephone with respect to your recent fax, but have not yet been able to speak with him. (my friend JUST called minutes after this fax and his Mommy is answering, he can't be anywhere without his 'surrety') I will continue to do so, and have forwarded him your fax by mail. I would ask that you do not take any further steps until I can get instruction from my client.

 

Yah, whatever.

[Ontario_Rider]

I received another fax from his lawyer stating that he has a list-which he forwarded containing all the items he wants. AND that a retrieval date will be set later. HE's asking for everything of value!! Still no mention of his clothes OR when he's getting them.

I'm wondering if he's just retaliating because I said get your stuff out.

How do I deal with this? He apparently at this time, does NOT have a family court lawyer. Am I just supposed to sit here and not sell anything when I have no money??

[DN]

Yes - until the matter is settled legally. I advise you not to do anything that would prejudice your standing in court.