any advice for NC at work?

[whatchamacallit]

Help! Tomorrow's Monday and I'll see my ex b/f. We met at work and I need advice on what to do when we see each other. I haven't talked to him since last Friday (3 days ago). He initiated the NC. It hurts and I'm afraid about tomorrow. I've been used to hearing from him very frequently. But now, have to deal with NC.

 

Any advice would be appreciated!

[annie24]

Treat him like you would any other coworker. Don't talk to him unless it's for work. If you see him in the hallway, nod or smile, that's it. If you must talk to him, like you are in an elevator together, talk about the weather, or about a show on TV.

[AwdreeHpburn]

Well, this is definitely a tough one. My advice to you is to fight the urge to "find something" work related to talk about with him. Try to remain as professional as possible. Be strong, this is a difficult situation but not an impossible one.

 

Post often to get feelings out. It really helps. During work keep track of the things that bother you, the tough times and anger filled moments and then come back here and vent! Seriously, let us know how tomorrow goes.

[annie24]

ah! good point - don't make up work-related topics! Treat him like you would towards the co-worker who has bad breath. You talk to him only when absolutely necessary!

[whatchamacallit]

thanks to both of you. I will write back and vent! I'm nervous and scared. He is the love of my life. He's found somebody else and it hurts. I wish I could escape and leave my job, but being single I need $$$$$! Good jobs are hard to find in my smaller town.

[whatchamacallit]

rocker, you're so right about it seems you're looking at a stranger. There's a song, "You've lost that loving feeling"? Feels weird and I DON'T LIKE IT!

 

This morning was rough, but feeling better this afternoon. I declined lunch with him and a bud here at work. He looked disappointed when they came back that I didn't go with them.

 

I can see why it's easy to fall in love with someone from work, or whatever place you spend alot of time at. But, when the breakup comes, it's like DOUBLE HELL!!!

[scarew]

Sorry guys, I have seen NC around a few posts and don't know what it is. Someone want to let me in on it?

[whatchamacallit]

no contact

[b8s]

im working with my ex of a month. and it is hard as hell there are times when i want to quit. i have been there 6 yrs him just under a year i wish he would just quit!!! and i am so sick of seeing him and being social with him. i still have strong feelings and it hurts me to have to pretend that im ok with being friends. it makes me mad to see him happy and over me.

 

best of luck to you, im not having much with it. the one thing i do know is i will never date a co-worker again!

[whatchamacallit]

I know. It's like a slap in the face! I wish mine would find another job. He lives in a bigger city than where we work. He had a couple of opportunities a few months back, but they didn't work out. It's like they're ok, but the dumpee (us) has to suffer with seeing them while they ignore us.

[annie24]

have you thought about putting a profile on link removed or something? Maybe the attention from other men will help take your mind off your ex for a while.

[whatchamacallit]

I was on Yahoo Personals for a while back in January and yes, have thought about going on link removed. It kinda turns my stomach though. Not knowing these men and believing them in what they say. But, I just might do it for the diversion.

[annie24]

well, yeah, I mean, just for a diversion. So you have plenty of men e-mailing you telling you that you're pretty. Maybe if some of them seem ok, meet them out for a dinner or drink.

 

yeah, I've found my share of liars and losers and married guys online, but there are some good ones on there too!

[shamus]

whatcha

 

its tough when you have to see them everyday. just take it slow, one day at a time.

try to avoid them unless you absolutely have to interact. good job on declining lunch.

 

online dating is weird...i'm trying it just for the diversion...havent met anyone that interests me to seriously pursue, but it is fun to talk to new people