How do you guys feel about massages?

[Twilight777]

Is it a turn on? Or is it just what it is...a massage (where it doesn't matter who does it). Do you find yourself more attracted to a girl who's willing to give you a massage. Or after one, do you just see the girl as someone who's good for a massage and nothing more...?

[RayKay]

Is it a turn on? Or is it just what it is...a massage (where it doesn't matter who does it). Do you find yourself more attracted to a girl who's willing to give you a massage. Or after one, do you just see the girl as someone who's good for a massage and nothing more...?

 

I 'd at your last statement..I have NEVER heard someone say "well she massaged me too early, that's it, it can't go further!"

 

Massages can be relaxing, invigorating or a turn on. All depends on the context, the atmosphere, the purpose and how it's done. My partner and I give mini and full massages all the time..sometimes to ease sore muscles (we are both athletic and can have lots of strains and pains!) and sometimes it's foreplay. I would say someone might not be "more attracted" to you because of it, but they might enjoy the generosity and that aspect of you. There should be some reciprocity though.

[KweenofDenyl]

I 'd at your last statement..I have NEVER heard someone say "well she massaged me too early, that's it, it can't go further!"

 

RayKay you crack me up!

 

All kidding aside, I think most of us of the female persuasion can tell when a massage or the offer of a massage is just a way to get in the pants. As long as that isn't the end goal too early on in the relationship, it's ok.

[Twilight777]

I think he knows that I wasn't trying to get into his pants... but maybe he was turned off by my forwardness and willingness to give him a massage?

 

Sorry, I should explain a little bit: We were friends for 2 years...he had been flirting with me for the past 6 months....I'm the one who offerred the massage. But haven't heard from him since I gave him the massage... =(

[Iceman26]

Did he ask for a happy ending?

[Twilight777]

No, not at all. He actually even mentioned something about giving me a massage one day too... but I just brushed it off because I didn't want him to think that I'm just giving him a massage because I wanted one from him.

 

We joke around a lot, but he's not a sleazy guy.

[melrich]

I can't imagine why anyone would not be happy to get a massage from their partner. I'm surprised by his reaction. I think he would be in the minority.

[Twilight777]

Sorry, if I'm not being clear (it's all kind of a jumbled mess in my head now too), but he's not my partner. He's my friend that I've been flirting with for a while.

[Lansing]

Maybe he feels weird about the situation. I.e.... many he is REALLY attracted to you, and that made him more attracted to you. And now, he is wondering "crap, I want to make a move on her but, I don't want to ruin what we have" or something along those lines...

 

Other possibility is that he isn't interested in anything beyond friendship and is worried about giving you mixed signals.

[Twilight777]

Well, it feels really weird to me and I wish things were clear cut. Because he doesn't really call me to hang out (just that one night), but he's always joking about how we should "hook-up", but doesn't do anything to follow-up with what he says.

 

Last night I saw him and he mentioned that we should hang out but then didn't really say when or where or anything like that. So I'm VERY confused.

 

I wish I knew why he was this way. Any insight would really help me right now.