Catch 22

[Life101]

hi guys, i havent posted in a while but a quick recap is this semester me and my gf broke up because she felt "differently" about us. The thing is we still see eachother at school and even hang out because we have the same class schedule. i know its pretty dumb to be hanging out with her but i feel weak. In a way i feel better when im around her than not. She told me she still doesn't know how she feels and i havent brought our relationship up yet. She just wants to be friends for now i think.

 

But even when im around her i still feel ill because i want to be able to kiss and her hug her but can't. My studies are extremely hard right now because im taking a lot of hours and the only thing i can concentrate is her. Please is their any way i can stop thinking about her so i can move on/or atleast get through this semester without thinking what she is doing while im in class. Your feedback will be greatly appreciated!! thankyou!

[markm]

yeah, quit hanging out with her.

[ultraviolet]

It's really difficult to get over someone when you're not sure if they'll ever come back or what changed their feelings about you in the first place. Your best bet in these circumstances is to let her be. Since she's the one that's confused, she needs to be the one to figure out what it is she really wants.

 

You can't will yourself to stop thinking about anyone. Actually trying entrenches the thought of them in your mind even more. But you can...

 

1. Remind yourself that you're a good person in your own right and that she's the one that's missing out on you.

2. Deliberately sit in the front row of classes so that she isn't in your field of vision.

3. Make new friends and/or hang out with old ones in class so that you start associating these places as places that involve faces other than hers.

4. Find new hangouts. Go places that no one would expect to find you. Your studying and social life will go much more smoothly.

5. Changeup your room, car, or any place else she frequently spent time with you. Box up anything that reminds of you her existence.

6. Exercise. It's good for you, boosts your endorphins, and tires you out. You'll sleep better too.

7. Be kind to yourself. You're going through a rough time and the last thing you need to do is beat yourself up. Revitalize yourself by reading things that are uplifiting and inspirational. (i.e. "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series)

8. Mark your calendar. Make fun plans for the future. Pat yourself on the back for every day you make it one day closer to finishing up this semester.

9. Volunteer. Help your favorite life form (kids? animals? the misfortunate?) or cause. Seeing how much you're needed makes you realize that your life is much bigger than any one person.

10. Hang out on Enotalone and give advice. Sometimes the best way to get over one's heartache is to use it to help others heal their own.