Question for the shy guys out there

[ladeedah]

Shy guys, please help!!! I like a guy who i thought was shy (eye contact from afar but not up close, hanging around my vicinity but not able to talk to me). Anyways, I decided to start a conversation with him tonight and he got all flustered and wouldn't look at me and gave me these short answers and than he said "....." and turned away to get something to eat at which point i felt stupid and turned away myself and went to the other end of the room. Shy guys: have you ever run away from the girl you like when she approached you or should i just assume he doesn't like me?

[Fivek]

Sounds like he went into panic mode when you approached and talked to him. He probably actually was very pleased that you did indeed go over and talk to him, but he probably wasn't "prepared" for it in a sense. Shy boys tend to have a very hard time introducing themselves and starting conversations, and you probably just caught him "unaware."

 

He's probably very angry at himself right now; give him some time. He will probably start the conversation the next time around.

[Dako]

Sounds like stage fright to me.

[mystik]

I agree with Fivek here... this wasn't necessarily a brush off or a rejection as it seems like he was truly scared out of his mind (not being able to look at you, etc). He may or may not be interested, but if you really believe he's shy, maybe try one more time. Next time you see him, see if he completely avoids making any contact with you or if he just seems nervous and shy, as per usual. Hopefully he won't get so flustered next time!

[ladeedah]

Well, he did walk past me afterward and said some offhand remark to the person standing next to me..but i was just so embarrassed i didn't acknowledge him and besides, he didn't say it to me...any more opinions? By the way, you guys are great..thanks you for helping me figure this out/

[tom_bombodil]

I agree with the other posts it sounds like he does like you especially if he was just hanging around in your vicinity and by doing this its highly likely he was hoping you would approach him but he wasn't prepared and he's probably not too confident.He was probably a little too embarrassed to talk to you again but you noticed him because he remarked to someone near you. I'd say try again and maybe he won't be as surprised as you will have approached him before.

[icechilly]

pretty much the same thing happened to me the other day at a pub, she came up and sat right next me and i couldnt even talk to her, i gut super nervouse, id imagin he was kicking himself later that night/the next day just like i was.

[Kevin T]

Sounds like the 'fight or flight' function. He got too nervous and took off. I can't say I've ever done that, but it doesn't sound too far-fetched either.

 

However, I have done some pretty weird stuff myself - having used to be quite shy with beautiful women.

[wlfpack81]

Sounds like a move I would do being super shy and super stupid. If you see him again try to make another move and see what happens. With shy guys it may take a while to get us to believe a girl is interested in us.

[Markers]

that most likely wasn't a brush off, he's just shy and believe me, that's what shy guys do. Go for it...

[Mr. Jones]

yes all the time...I'm worried that I'll run outta things to say and end up saying something stupid...which in turn would give you the wrong impression.

 

I'm guessing he probably got a lil too nervous...

 

Don't be discouraged though, and do talk to him again or he may feel like he screwed things up

 

Goodluck

[ladeedah]

Thanks so much guys!!!!!

Until the next installment.....

[barenmind]

What sort of conversation were you having with him? Does he know you're interested in him? Try asking him why he's afraid of you. Let him know jokingly, that you won't bite..."unless you want me to". Of course, that line could make him more nervous, I suppose. Use discretion. When you're talking to him and he won't give you eye contact, ask if he'd rather be left alone. If he says no, let him know that you notice how uncomfortable he appears to be, and ask him what you can do to make him more comfortable around you. Tell him that when he avoids eye contact with you, it makes you feel like he doesn't like you, and is not comfortable being around you. Does he interact with any other girls?