i need some adive

[Jeremyg77]

well about 2 weeks ago me and my girlfriend broke up we have been going out for about 1 yr 5 months and i love her....we have broke up before but got back together...and this time i thought it was gunna be the same..but last sunday she told me that she doesnt think we will be getting back together because her feelings have changed...that hurt me alot i couldnt go to school monday cuz i was soo hurt and it still hurts alot i dont no how to get over it...its soo hard to not talk to her....she has been my best friend since 5th grade and im a junior now its really hard and i dont no what to do...i want her back...i want her to realize that she does like me i think she is having alot of stress right now cuz her parents are having problems and school is hard....what should i do...i talked to her today and she said that we prob wont be able to go back out again which hurt more knowing i lost her forever...i wanna know how to make this feeling go away its so hard...i look at it like i wont find someone as perfect as she was

[Imaginary]

IMO, her emotions are her emotions, and she should identify them better than you do.

 

Anyways, the longest a relationship lasts, the more it hurts. It's ok to grieve a little, that way you learn, but don't go overboard. (You shouldn't be missing school though) The pain won't always go away as quickly as you want to, but you'll get over it.

 

And everyone has flaws. She wasn't perfect, in your eyes maybe, but she really wasn't, your next gf won't, neither will the next, and so on. So I'd say you'll find someone you like as much as you liked her.

[NR498E]

Imaginary...that was very well said.I concure.

[Jeremyg77]

its hard to cuz i live like 5 minutes away and i see her everyday in school

[Imaginary]

It will be hard, and will continue to be hard, and then, you'll get over it. But you shouldn't allow your emotions to get the best of you.

[Jeremyg77]

well i havent talked to her at all today and then when i came back from away message she imed me and said "you like the snow?'' she never imed me since we been broken up what does that mean does that mean since im not talkin to her she doesnt like it? what?

[Imaginary]

You are reading way too much into it. I don't know why she sent that message, but you shouldn't assume anything unless she tells you so. If you want to, message her back normally. If you don't want to, then don't.

[Jeremyg77]

what do i do cuz her friends are mine we hang out with the same group of friends and i want to have no contact with her and i wanna see my friends

[Imaginary]

Well, that's a tricky one. You could suck it up and bear with it. Or you could explain your exgf how you feel and arrange it so that you never meet. Or if you feel like you don't want to involve her, you could always pick some friends and hang with them, then hang with some others, then with some others and so on... Really, there are a ton of options available, do what you feel best.

[Jeremyg77]

well last night she kept textin me sayin hi, how are you, and she said she wants to kno if we could be friends i said i dunno cuz its hard and she got all upset but now today im going over to tlak about everything to her is that a good idea or no