Is it wrong for a lady to make the first move?

[rachelb]

Well I know that if a guy makes it very clear to me that he wants to date me and offers me no mystery, is too nice or straight forward, it definitely takes out the attraction to a certain extent. There has to be an element of mystery and chase. And I'm a girl! The guys I've chased never worked out so I've stopped chasing them and I find that if a guy likes you, he'll chase you or at least makes an effort to.

[Msnak]

Here's a perspective I was introduced to by a friend.

 

What about the notion that men would be best to do the asking because it's easier for a man to be turned down than to turn a woman down?

 

It's easier for a guy to handle the pain than to have to inflict it on a woman. Sometimes honesty is harsh, so rejecting a woman's advances might mean a man would feel bad, guilty or worse, feel compelled to go along just because he was asked and he doesn't know how to get out of it for fear of "hurting" a woman (her feelings).

 

(Keep in mind, I still think anyone can do the asking!! It's better than wondering, regretting or missing an opportunity.)

[corvidae]

The implication being that women have no problem hurting men's feelings? I thought women were supposed to be MORE empathic.