i want to have a baby

[dimp62003]

i just turned 18 and i want to have a baby....yes i realize that im very young but im ready to get on with my life and all that. see the thing is is that my b/f doesnt want kids...well at least not right now, not for like 20 years. idk i just need an outlook from somebody

[lady00]

I do think 18 is young to have kids but that's sort of not the point of your question...so on to your question...If your bf doesn't want kids, you will probably have a tough time convincing him. I think it's important for you to think through which thing is more important to you...is having a child now more important or is staying with your current bf more important? Only you can decide that because only you know what matters to you most. Good luck with your decision.

[melrich]

Hi,

 

Why do you want a baby now?

[perfectliljewel]

just to point something out. dont you think it will be VERY hard to go to college and get a GOOD job with a child? and as the above poster said, what is more important to you? and do you know how hard it is to raise a child?

[emptyinside]

Ack! Please! You're still a child, don't reproduce!

 

Have you ever wanted to travel?

 

Take risks?

 

Live by yourself?

 

Pursue a career?

 

Go to bed whenever the hell you feel like?

 

Have friends?

 

Go out dancing?

 

Live your life!

 

Creating a life is not a solution for a lack of direction. Your child will have the same sense of purposelessness that you do. Bring a child into a stable, secure, rich (emotionally) environment. Not the void in your hormonal life.

 

sorry if this sounds harsh, but jeezus, sometimes people need to be slapped.

 

then again, if you want to have a kid. go get pregnant. then the guy can't do NOTHING to stop you.

[Relationship Coach]

Dimp,

 

I'm sure your maternal instincts are genuine but I agree with the others, don't do it yet! First establish the relationship beyond the word Boyfriend and make sure this is the right person to father your child with. Go to school and start a career and then consider it.