bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Hey Everyone...thanks for reading my post... Haven't been on here in a few months..Some of you might remember me.. Ok..here goes.... I met this girl 2 weeks ago and we have been on 3 dates so far...Each date has been great....we got along emotionally and physically extremely well. The first date we both knew we were physically attracted to each other in the fact that we had alot of touching and such and ended up making out for a long time and chatted for hours. The second date was the same...had a few drinks, ate some good food and enjoyed each other's company and by the end of the night we ended up sleeping with each other,,,,not once but twice...Anyways we had a great time...Then tonight was the same...hung out, ate dinner, listened to music and then we ended up having sex again which was great. Afterwards we did the usual cuddling and holding of hands and givinglittle kisses and such but then in the middle of all of that she ends up tellling me out of the blue that she is "Not girlfriend" material...??? I kinda didn't know what to say at that point but ended saying..." sure if that'show you feel ?..Mind you ...prior to that there was no relationship talk whatsoever between us we were basically new with each other at dating and going with the flow and BANG she says that.. Don't get me wrong...I'm not looking for anything serious really quickly but I actually ended up really liking this girl so far and the funny thing is that she is coming over to my house Saturday night because I am making her dinner and we are going to watch a movie and stuff... So the question is...should I pursue this any further with this girl if I know now that I kinda like her more than just "Friends" and she told me what she told me tonight ?... I'm wondering if she is serious or just scared of any type of relationship at the moment ? Any insight on this would be much appreciated.. thanks ! Link to comment
melrich Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Seems a funny thing to say. The way I am reading it is it's her way of saying she does not want any formal commitment, why? who knows. I guess you just have to ask yourself whether you are OK with that. Link to comment
RandomAdvisor Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 That she might be scared is the first thing I thought of. Or maybe she's not interested in being your GF, and just wants a best friends with benefits situation. I guess you should talk to her about it if you're interested in pursueing a relationship with her, and it sounds like you are. Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 I'm totally ok with it actually but a little confused... Saying I'm totally ok with meaning that I've done it with many girls in the past 2 years since my last real "long" relationship.. But funny thing is that I actually started to like this girl and she was the one telling me this... It's usually me saying to girls "I"m not the boyfriend " material.. just a little confused I guess Link to comment
melrich Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Well if you stay with it remember she has given you fair warning...don't go falling in love with her...better to quit now if that is going to happen. Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Well if you stay with it remember she has given you fair warning...don't go falling in love with her...better to quit now if that is going to happen. Yeah I've realized she has given me fair warning.. Just sucks how things seem to work out that way..I'm usually the one saying that to women that I'm not interested in a relationship and now with a girl that I actually like she says that to me...?..lol.... We've only been on 3 dates and Saturday will be our 4th but I actually like this one so far... Like the old saying goes I guess...."What goes around... comes around.."...haha Link to comment
PavPPZ1 Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 dont worry yourself too much over it, just hang back and things will fall into place, if she infact likes you, she might be playing hard to get... who knows Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Yeah I know... Weird thing is....2 mins ago she just called me and toldme she couldn't sleep and just wanted to call me and say thanks for dinner tonight and she had a great time and she's looking forward to Saturday night ? HMMM...man...chicks confuse me !...hahaha Link to comment
PavPPZ1 Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 it seems like you will have the option of dating her or doing what ever you want soon enough, sounds like she is going to melt in your hands buddy, keep up the good work, and then maybe you guys are a match after all. Congrats! Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Yeah a little confusing... she called me thislate so I assume she likes me more than I though anyhow... I'm gonna just go with the flow as it seems now..Hopefully we will have a great night Saturday..which I'm sure we will..we always have and then see from there.. I remember know why I find dating so confusing ...lol.... especially when you start liking the other person ! Link to comment
PavPPZ1 Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Its the never ending saga of confusion, but the way to beat it is to stick to cirtain principles which do work. thats the key. Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Its the never ending saga of confusion, but the way to beat it is to stick to cirtain principles which do work. thats the key. Well said my man...well said !.. As I see it now...I'm just gonna enjoy my date again with her on Saturday night and just see how things go..Basically just go with the flow.. I'm usually the one that likes to take things slow so I'll keep at it, just that she threw me off a little bit off with that statement when I haven't said anything in regards of getting serious with her.. Link to comment
HajiMaji Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 I had a girl say that too me before. Things went great for a long time, then bam! she turned into all that crap. Not saying this girl will. Im just saying life is confusing. Maybe shes just nervous. But maybe she secretly knows shes not good g/f material. guard the heart, but dont close it off. It could go either way. Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 I had a girl say that too me before. Things went great for a long time, then bam! she turned into all that crap. Not saying this girl will. Im just saying life is confusing. Maybe shes just nervous. But maybe she secretly knows shes not good g/f material. guard the heart, but dont close it off. It could go either way. Thanks...I know what you mean...I gotta just roll with the punches Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 I'm not sure...but all day I've pondering if I should keep the date with her at my place on Saturday ?... Just don't wanna waste my time if you know what I mean.... Link to comment
PavPPZ1 Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Look at the basics, is the sex good, is she descent, is she fun to be around. If you can answer to 2 out of 3 of these, stick to the date, and take it easy, otehrwise pursue other options. Good luck mate Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Look at the basics, is the sex good, is she descent, is she fun to be around. If you can answer to 2 out of 3 of these, stick to the date, and take it easy, otehrwise pursue other options. Good luck mate Very wise...yes true...the sex is great...she cute and she is fun to hang out with...I guess I'm just looking to much into it! Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Maybe she was admitting that she's a dirtly little girl and wanted you to do some nasty things to her at that moment... Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Maybe she was admitting that she's a dirtly little girl and wanted you to do some nasty things to her at that moment... LOL...yeah maybe..but she said that after we had sex and when we were cuddling and doing the after sex thing...maybe if she would have said it during intercourse ?.. Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 LOL...yeah maybe..but she said that after we had sex and when we were cuddling and doing the after sex thing...maybe if she would have said it during intercourse ?.. Probe some other orafaces next time and see what she does... \ Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 LOL...yeah maybe..but she said that after we had sex and when we were cuddling and doing the after sex thing...maybe if she would have said it during intercourse ?.. Probe some other orafaces next time and see what she does... \ LOL....I'm not sure about that ...Saturday is only the 4th date.. maybe the 5th date I'll try that...hahaha Link to comment
HajiMaji Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Haha. Keep the date. Play it out or youll regret it. Just keep it cool. Like her and flirt and whatever, just dont feel married to her yet. Not until she prooves her true girlfriend material. Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Haha. Keep the date. Play it out or youll regret it. Just keep it cool. Like her and flirt and whatever, just dont feel married to her yet. Not until she prooves her true girlfriend material. Yeah I'm gonna keep the date....and keep my cool... Any females here have any other insights ? Or have said this before ? Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted October 28, 2005 Author Share Posted October 28, 2005 Again tonight !!...she just called me and wanted to say good night and we were talking about our date at my house on Saturday night...? I mean...If I would have said what she said to me last night, I wouldn't be calling like this..I'd be doing what I've done before and that is just calling on week-ends for a booty call ?... Girls confuse me big time !...lol Link to comment
bubbamackdaddy69 Posted November 1, 2005 Author Share Posted November 1, 2005 A little update on the situation and honestly I am still quite unsure about this whole thing. She came over to my place Saturday for dinner. When she first walked in she gave me a nice kiss which was nice. We had dinner and a few drinks and then we basically hung out in my basement watching the hockey game as she was lying on me and cuddling and holding hands,kissing and such.. We then proceeded to my bedroom and made out and such and she told me again that she really likes me but is not sure about the whole girlfriend thing as she feels our relationship is proceeding forward and such. She told me kinda jokingly but not really that she can see herself not speaking to me anymore later on in like 2 weeks because she doesn't want to get too attached and hurt me ? We talked in my bed for about 30 mins and she insisted she wasn't going to have sex with me that night but we ended up sleeping with each other later that night anyhow. Well anyways..she left later that night, gave a kiss goodnight. When she left..I was thinking..."What the ##$%$ happened ???" Well she called me the following night just to say Hi and good night.. So...from the ladies perspective....what should I do here...Is she wasting my time or what ? Link to comment
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