mmf Threesome

[thinksalot]

I ran a search on "threesome" in this forum and read as many posts as I could. I'm aware that most people are advising that a serious relationship not attempt a threesome because it may lead to the end of the relationship and/or hurt feelings.

 

The thing is, the very thought of another guy (who is likeable and trustworthy) having sex with my girlfriend or fondling her and eventually going into a threesome with me included turns me on. I also know that she has an interest in mmf threesome as well because we've discussed it together. I think we have a strong and healthy relationship, we get along very well and love sharing our bodies with each other.

 

I'm fully aware that sexual fantasy and reality are two completely different things. Neither of us have ever experienced a threesome before. I'm just very turned on when I know my girlfriend is feeling and getting lots of pleasure, whether it be from me or a sex toy, and now I'm thinking even as far as a threesome. It turns me on (in my head).

 

My question is: With everything I've just stated here, is the idea of a threesome (for both the girlfriend and I) still sound like nothing more than a dirty thought (sexual fantasy), or has anyone been in a similar position as I am now who can tell me that yes they've been in a serious longterm relationship and have tried a threesome and has definitely enjoyed (or unenjoyed) it.

 

I just want to know if we both should keep the thought of a threesome as just our sexual fantasy instead of exploring it in real life.

[Blackmsmithdave]

personaly i would keep it as just a fantasy, but then again i am a very jealouse lover, i would cut anouther mans hands off for touching the women i love. But im a little weird but from a purely sexual perspective i have been offered a threesome twice and have considerewd it and been quite up to it, but i was the additional male and they were the couple. it might improve your sexual relationship, but it might sink it. Also you have to really trust this guy. Would it be a bugger if your lady went off with him having found something better.

 

Sorry im a little shallow so talk to a few other people before making up your mind.

 

Good luck and keep us posted

[loot]

well, this is exactly how my mind is trailing right now.......and my boyfriends. except we want a ffm thresome. im not bisexual but i know pleasuring another woman and her returning that favour would turn him on, i just have doubts about whether id mind her havin sex with him. im a very insecure person and so al i can worry about is wether hed prefer her and go off with her. so..................in the end we kept the fantasy in our heads, i would mind the me and girl bit but not the him nd girl bit, but thats not really a threesome is it, lol. if i were u , if ur not sure , just keep it in ur head. both of us were turned on by it and curious but at the end of the day neither of us were sure if wed be hurt or regret it after. just think, picture ur girl with another man, how do u feel about watching that? have u discussed a ffm thresome? i know thatt means shed get more hurt by that than u, but maybe she wouldnt mind u with another girl. but my final word is if ur not certain and have doubts which i gather u are because u wouldnt be askin 4 advice, then just dont do it.

[boredSlim]

i would mind the me and girl bit but not the him nd girl bit, but thats not really a threesome is it, lol.

Actually, yes, that is a threesome, you can set rules of who can touch who and who can do what with who. So yes, you can try that.

picture ur girl with another man, how do u feel about watching that?

I picture her with another man when I masturbate. I'm just really turned on when she is being sexually pleased.

have u discussed a ffm thresome?

She doesn't like the idea of me inside another girl even though both of us mind about the idea of another guy inside her.

[boredSlim]

it might improve your sexual relationship, but it might sink it.

That's what I'm curious about. The chances of it sinking.

[Vert]

So she doesn't like the fact that you would be inside another girl, but she doesn't mind the fact of another guy pumping her? Hmmm a bit on the unfair side, unless you're into seeing another man's junk in your bed. Personally, I'd never participate in a 3-some at any time much less a MMF. I think I'd need to be at least bi-sexual and so would he in order to do that because you have to be ready to see it, probably touch it, and definitely be near it.

[Day_Walker]

I think that its possible a relationship will not turn nasty after a threesome, IF the relationship is strong and both people are mature enough to handle the situation. Now saying that I dont believe that most relationship could survive a threesome so I think its a judgement call about your particular relationship.

[boredSlim]

You guys brought up some good points here that I haven't thought about before.

 

Day Walker said "if both people are mature enough" and I thought we were, but seeing as how Vert brought up that she would mind if I was inside another girl but wouldn't mind another guy being in her while I don't mind either way maybe is a good indicator that we shouldn't attempt this, at least, not right now.

 

I think my decision for now is leaning towards leaving it as a shared sexual fantasy.

[Vert]

Probably a wise choice, my friend. If she is showing "jealous" statements of not wanting you to be with other women but wants to be with other men at the same time... well, that's a red flag to stop right there with the 3-some talk. Until she's ready to be all's fair and equal, then don't.

[Blackmsmithdave]

glad i we could help, i dont want to hear that she has bullied you into it and then gone off with this other guy. I will be very upset, its nothing to do with me but i get pasionate about infedility. pasionate in the i hate them kind of way.

 

Good luck and i hope things between you and your lady go well.

[richdaniels]

I saw no replies from anyone that was actually in a MMF threesome in a serious relationship. I did this with my current wife prior to getting married. The situation was this, my friend jokingly made the comment to me when we were watching a porn flick, "how fun it would be if we did that." I agreed and later asked my wife, then girlfriend, what she thought. Well, she agreed to it so I set it up for him to come over. Personally, it had to be a close friend, preferably my best friend since I knew that I could trust him outside of this encounter. For me it was exciting on many different levels, not only would I witness and be part of someone else having sex with her, my friend and I would have that added closeness of this experience. At first it was a little awkward, here we were getting ready to have sex with her with the other right at our side. Plus, here I get to see my wife pleasured by my friend. Anyway, the night took place he spent the night, had another fling in the morning and he left. There were no rules, just everyone enjoy themselves. If anything this brought my wife and I closer, and my friend and I closer. I never felt threatened or jeoulous. All three of us loved the experience and repeated it several times. Today it's maybe a once a year occurrence.

 

But, I can agree with some of the other posts. You do need to make sure that you are both really ready for this. It is wonderful experience but shouldn't be taken lightly. I could not have done this with a guy I was not close to. In this case I would have felt threatened. Another thing to consider, you can't be threatened by touching the other guy, it's going to happen. Not to mention your going to stick it where he just deposited his seed.

 

If you decide it is a awesome experience, just make sure the other guy is the right guy. Someone you can trust and won't feel threatened by.

[Shaun23]

Personaly I am glad to hear that you decided not to do the 3some thing!

Well, considering the fact that I am a pretty conservitave guy, I will not be able to handle the fact that another guy is touching my girl, never mind the fact that he is "in" her!

 

Sex is a sacred event between two parties. I cannot even emagine my girl being with another guy! This is something special the two of you share, and when you enter a relationship, I feel that you make that promise to share such an intemate part of yourself with only that special person in your life!! Sorry if I sound a little old fasioned but hey that is me!!

Well, that is my feelings about it!

[audiomusiclover]

I am glad to read from someone who has tried the MFM threesome and had a positive experience with it. It sounds like RD thought it through which is a must with something so large. Like many guys, I have wanted to do it with my wife for many years and have spoken to her about it many times while having sex fantasy sessions. I don't believe she would really go for it though if pressing her to consider it for real, but it sure is a VERY sexy thought. Thanks RD for sharing your experience.