Oral, Shaking and Missing the big O

[La_Spada]

Alright. Well earlier this week, I was performing oral sex on my girlfriend. It was a good times, I really enjoyed myself and apparently my girlfriend did, but unfortunately, whenever I stimulated the clitoris she'd really get into it, but then she's started shaking violently. Is this good, bad? She said, it was great, but couldnt really handle the pleasure at that point. First time, I stimulated, she was really getting into it, then she shaked mildly and screamed she couldnt breath, so I stopped, we relaxed again, tried again, and the above happened. I tried some different techiques, didnt really work out as well.

 

Was wondering, so should I just hang on for the ride and keep on going?

I asked her afterwards if she orgasmed, she said no.

 

I just want the best for her. I was teasing her a bit, didnt go right for the clitoris, just need some advice, this is frustrating.

[nexus532]

you should tease he a little, keep going but go at a slower pace when she does that thing. She apperantly likes it, and it doesn't sound like your doing anything wrong, just keep dooing what your doing and you will be fine.

[layton99]

Try being a bit more gentle with your tongue. Just playing with her first using your fingers and lips might help.

 

My wife has the same problem if I go too quick and too hard on her clit it makes her really uncomfortable.

Over-pleasure she calls it.

 

Also try reaching up and stroking her nipples it might take her mind off the clit or even take her over the top.

 

If in doubt slow and gentle. Work up the speed and pressure as she gets more turned on.

[Amannamederic]

very common, some girls can take it, others can't, its like the feeling you get right after you cum (as a guy) and your penis is so extremely sensitive that it does not want to be touched, except the clitoris can be like that all of the time...very tough to work around but definetly possible.

[Shadows Light]

Guide to Cunnilingus 1

 

Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love to a vagina/vulva with your mouth and tongue. It is a delicate skill, requiring patience, practice, and dedication to get it right, but any woman you learn to do it right for will appreciate you all the more for it. What applies to the penis applies to the vulva - every one is different, requiring a different touch to make its owner happy. But few tools can equal the tongue for the amount of pleasure it can deliver to a happy vagina. This article assumes that you know what a vulva looks like and can identify with some precision the mons veneris, labia majora, clitoral hood, clitoris, labia minora, urethra, vagina, and perineum, to name them (approximately) from top to bottom.

 

This isn't an attack. Don't go after the clitoris like a fireman attacking a fire. Quite often at first, the clitoris is far too sensitive for direct stimulation. Lick around it, stimulating the hood, teasing her inner labia, tasting her. Take your time and listen to her. Some women make noise, and some do not. It will be a while before you learn exactly what your lover prefers as far as oral sex is concerned. Some women may like additional stimulation - a finger or two into the vagina, or perhaps even the anus. She may want your hands to reach up and play with her breasts, or she may want your fingers to hold her labia apart so that your tongue can get at her vulva more directly.

 

If the taste or smell bothers you or is a concern, ask her to wash first. Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean vagina is a good, if acquired, taste. As a woman nears her climax, she may want more direct stimulation. In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing climax- but there shouldn't be a rush to get there. Take your time and learn to appreciate what you can do for her.

 

 

A Guide to Cunnilingus 2

 

Tongue and vulva

 

Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area is going to feel just great. Start your tonguing by lapping her vulva from vaginal entrance up to her clitoris, while keeping your tongue and jaw relaxed. Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side, while keeping the two sides together between your lips. (There are two lips on each side of her vulva, do this to one side at a time.) Then do the other side.

 

Tongue sex

 

Make love to her vulva with your tongue - in and out, around and around, try with your tongue hard, then soft and change the tempo often. This feels nice. Spread her outer lips with your hand. With your tongue pointed and stiff, gently flick the end of your tongue here and there. Roam around, but keep coming back to her clitoris. Be careful to not apply too much pressure on the clitoris in the beginning, wait for her signal - moaning and bucking her hips. This drives some women wild, and others can't take it.

 

Intense vulva techniques

 

When she's really hot and her vulva is throbbing try these incredible intense techniques. Watch her signals closely as these techniques may be too much, even when she's nearing orgasm. With her clitoris still exposed, give it a quick little suck by pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This will drive her insane with ecstasy! Take her exposed clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it, at the same time flick your tongue over and around her clit. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm. Try rolling your tongue into a tube by bringing the sides of your tongue up and together. If you can't do this with your tongue, you can't learn it, it's a genetic trait. Roll your tongue into a tube around the shaft of her clitoris, sliding it up and down, making a tiny vulva of your own for her clitoris to ****.

 

Oral vulva-sex positions

 

For a very comfortable session, have her lie on her back with legs spread and knees bent slightly. Lie on your stomach between her legs putting your right arm under her left leg and your left arm under her right leg. Your head is comfortably in place near the center of your attention. Your arms wrap around her legs leaving your hands free. Not as comfy but a bit wilder is this one. Lie on your back and prop a couple of pillows under your head. She kneels with her vulva facing you with one knee on each side of your head, above your shoulders. The sexy part of this position is that your partner can look down at you and watch you eating her out. Comfort is reduced for the one eating here, so you may want to start in this position and finish in the above position. Have her lie down with her legs dangling off the bed and resting flat on the floor, most beds are too high. She must sit just at the edge of the bed, lie back, and give you plenty of access while you kneel/sit in front of her genitals. These are by no means the only positions, so experiment and have fun.