It is a little hazy, how will I know...

[bellagia]

First off, I know what i did was stupid, and nothing anyone can say will make me feel worse about myself than I already do. The other night I went out with some friends of mine to a benefit party for someone that works at my best friends law firm. I had too much to drink. A lot too much... like the college years all over again.

 

One of her good friends was with us, we were all too drunk to make it home, so the three of us stayed at her house. Her good friend (a man) has been interested in me from the first time we met. I have never been interested in him like that, but i must admit the attention is nice sometimes... and i flirt with him to get the extra attention as well.

 

well on this night it seems that the flirting must have gone too far. when i woke up in the morning my pants were off and my underwear were a little torn on one side. i was just laying on the bed with nothing on except for the blouse i had worn the night before. her friend had already left by the time i woke up.

 

Since that night my stomach has been absolutely ill, i can't believe what might have happened. to make it worse, i ran into him the next day. he asked how i was doing and i said "i can't even remember getting home last night, what happened" at this point he just smiled and said nothing. is this rape? i don't even know what happened... and under a normal circumstance it definitely would NOT have been consentual. i am sick over this. please respond, i am too embarrassed to talk to my friends about this.

[Cydeways]

go to your doc, maybe he can tell you.

[Emotional]

sounds like somebody slipped something in your

drink. IF you do not remember anything but flirting

you were not consenting this with him.

 

Id go to the doctors...get a close relative or friend take you.

 

You will feel so much better.

 

Similiar thing happened to me and I went to the doctors...The

Sain nurse made me take this drink that was supose to prevent

gonorea and clamidia. She also had me take like 4 pills and this was

to prevent stds and to prevent pregnancy. Id really go to the doctors.

 

Are you sore down there at all?

 

Take care

[bellagia]

is it too late to take the pills and stuff from the doctor? it has been five days already. no i'm not sore down there, but honestly, being 26 years old... i don't get sore after intercourse often. what if i become pregnant... or get a disease... i'm so scared.

[WildChild]

Although this might make you feel uncomfortable, you should talk to this guy or your friend about that night at least to give you an idea of what may have happened...kind of feel them out. I personally don't like that he "just smiled" when you commented that you don't remember what happened. If it was an awkward time to answer you, he should have said he will talk to you later about it....makes me suspicious that something that shouldn't have happened did with or without your consent. It may be that someone slipped you something, especially if you don't remember anything. Depending on how close you are to your friend, maybe broach the subject with her first. Nevertheless, if you end up in a situation where he is with you again in a similar situation either do not drink or make sure that one of your friends is aware of the situation and with you so they can help keep an eye on things

[darkblue]

Go to the doctors and get checked out.