Ex GF desperate needs

[Hulk34]

Good morning everyone , I’m a 24 year old male 

so I have been dating this girl since 2017 

she had come from a emotional relationship that took her 2-3 years to heal from . I come in her life as a childhood friend that known her . When we started dating she was not working neither was I . I soon got a job because I seen a future with her. I made small investment and by December 21 2017 , I made 68k . I told her I was going on vacation she insisted she didn’t want me to go along . I was going for medical reasons . I bought her flight and expenses while on vacation . We would argue and harsh each other out . IM not the perfect man but I try to be everyday in life . Soon I come back from vacation and I start spending money going out with her and I had quit my job . Everyone we ate it was take out and I wouldn’t think about it . We go on vacation again I come back and I am broke entering 2019 . I have 7k left she helped me open a business by letting me use her address as the location . No money was taken from her . It was simple I am the male I provide while she didn’t work . She would go to school and then not finish . She would have panic attacks or anxiety . That I had triggered because we would always argue and I would emotionally abuse her about being lazy and not doing crap . She then broke up with me within a 2-3 months she starts talking to this older 35 years old  guy that lied to her into moving in with her and who knows . Long story that didn’t work because she found out he had kids and a wife and only wanted to use her sexually . I pay phone bills I pay for everything . We get back together 2019 September . We get along then we strt arguing and fighting again until now October she left vacation and she broke up with me . She has gotten liposuction which I also have her money . She says she can’t trust me because I hurt her but she loves me . We are still talking and sleep together sometimes . Now she is demanding me to give her 15k because she needs it and wants to invest . It’s a hard time and all . She accuses me the reason she can’t work . Her family can’t work and tells me how she’s going to eat and feed her family . I’m still getting paid 

for my services from my business that all she let me do was use her address. I never borrowed any money . And I would instead be the one to give . She is single and i am single . But are two idiots trying to fix a broken relationship. Toxic for each other . She demanded and cried that she needs money and would tell me I’ll never change and can’t trust me because I can’t even do that . So is me refusing to give money me not changing ? . I’m I being used ? . I’m currently more at peace with out her but I do miss her . 
 

I never lived at her house she lived at mines . Always slept and never worked ever since 2018 April . Now she is mentality not okay and stable to work and in need . 

[Wiseman2]

I think you know you have to sever financial ties to her, including any use of an address or "help" with your business. You as well need to handle your finances better. Who supports the two of you? Her parents? Your parents? 

[Hulk34]

I supported my self financially . I have never depended on anyone for assistance. I agree with finances better . She’s demanding I give her 15k . She says I have all this money because of her . She didn’t help me get not one client or in any way worked with me . All she did was sleep and eat and say she’s not mentally okay and suffer from

anxiety and stress I have caused .  

[Rose Mosse]

It sounds like she suffers from mental health issues. Just step away if you feel this isn't right for you. Come up with a different solution for your business. Rome wasn't built in a day. You'll have to distance yourself from each other and start thinking more independently. Surely you realize that you're being manipulated. 

What I would do is take a look at what's happening now versus a list of all the things you want actually done or to have done by X time (let's say 2 years or 5 years from now). Set some goals for yourself - near and future goals and ask yourself whether what's going on now or what you have now is aligned to where you want to be. 

It's a simple exercise but it might help you see how your current situation isn't working with where you want to be overall. Helps with clarity and purpose. Hope this helps. 

[Wiseman2]

12 hours ago, Hulk34 said:

 . All she did was sleep and eat and say she’s not mentally okay 

Don't pay for her liposuction.💰

[SherrySher]

15K?!? She is demanding that after she has cheated and convinced you she can't work? 

Stop giving her money, she's using you.

[MissCanuck]

Dude, where is your common sense?

You need to get away from this woman for good. Do not give her any money.