Kill That Desperation

[AlwaysNeedHelp]

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Being a Casa Nova or a Don Juan is not a net sum of smooth manuevers and methods but of your own outlook on the world and on women. ANYONE can memorize 'techniques', but FEW can change the way HOW they think. Women will be able to sniff out the former. But with the latter, women will be clawing at each other for you.

 

A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks.

 

This must be stated because it brings us to the subject of 'desperation'.

 

In the end, we are all desperate with desire. We wouldn't be looking for tips and answers if we did not desire a girlfriend or MULTIPLE girlfriends-(being a bit ambitious, aren't we?) We all want a woman (or women ), but our desire and feelings brings out the desperation traits within us.

 

Where I work, I asked the women what they found as desperation in a co-worker.

 

Here are some of their answers:

 

--always giving the women attention.

--calling all the time (and immediately once getting the number,

immediately returning a call, being at her beck and call, etc.)

--taking every opportunity to talk to them and telling them everything

about yourself right away.

--always available.

--NEVER willing to walk away-(NEVER willing to disagree, ALWAYS suppli-

cating).

--etc.

 

What theme can we find in the above? It is that the man puts the woman on the pedestal rather than himself.

 

Imagine if a woman did all of the above to you. Imagine if a woman was OBSESSED with you-i.e;'Swimfan', 'Fatal Attraction'. Always available for you, and always spending her free time FOR YOU. Any initial interest you had in this woman would soon evaporate. Why? Because in your own mind you are thinking two things one else must want her," AND "If I can get her OBSESSED about me, Iknow I can get BETTER girls to be interested in me." Her desperation is turning you off, The same is true for women.

 

Women are not attracted to desperate men...PERIOD! I've told my co-worker this and his response: "Well, that is just who I am." Eventually, he will realize that the only common denominator in his pattern of crash and burn will be HIM. So if anyone has told you that you're desperate, consider that it's true.

 

*There is a KEY to removing desperation forever. There is no simple 'trick' that will kill desperation. It will not simply be in how you dress, talk or where you go on dates. No, the KEY is in how you think.

 

The KEY to killing desperation (and attracting crowds of women) is to THINK and BELIEVE that you are The Great Catch.

 

Desperate guys do not do this. They see the woman as the trophy rather than themselves. They see that the women must be 'wooed' rather than them. They will, thus supplicate and become a 'nice guy'. (And most nice guys finish last as we all know).

 

If you start treating a woman like precious gold, she will believe she is gold. And once she believes it, she will DUMP YOU because YOU have given her the sense that she is BETTER than you. Once she thinks that, she will want to REPLACE YOU with someone better, because you have given her reasons to believe that YOU ARE UNWORTHY OF HER GREATNESS.

 

After all, if we think we can ****** someone better, we will. This holds true for both men and women. The last thing we want to settle for is a mate when we could have gotten better. (This is why the element of challenge is so important in the Dating Game.)

 

**The lesson: DON'T GIVE HER A REASON TO THINK SHE IS BETTER. You are the gold; she should be thrilled just to have a CHANCE with you.

 

The first step in becoming the Prince Charming every woman dreams of is to THINK OF YOURSELF AS A PRINCE.

 

When you BELIEVE you are that prince, that you are The Great Catch, all the 'desperation' signs you were emitting vanish and an aura of attraction will surround you. Combine this manner of thinking with all the Don Juan skills you know, and you will become irresistible.

 

*Remember these signs of desperation?

 

--always giving the woman/women attention.

 

Now that you're The Prince, you don't have time to give women attention. A Prince is kind, ENTHUSIASTIC, smiling, yet YOU have things to do. A Prince's time is precious. A woman must win your attention; you shall NOT 'give' it to them.

 

--calling all the time (and calling immediately once getting the number, immediately returning a call, etc.

 

The Great Catch simply CANNOT call all the time because he hsa tons of other numbers. The Great Catch is not competing for a particular girl. The girls, rather, are competing for him.

 

--taking every opportunity to talk to them (and telling everything about

yourself).

 

Why would Prince Charming tell everything about himself to a woman? No, the woman must JUSTIFY HERSELF to him because YOU ARE THE GOODS. The Prince would reveal things about himself only as a reward. The woman loves the mystery in this and sees knowing the Prince as peeling layers of an onion, knowing him GRADUALLY. Now we know what Shrek meant.

 

--always available

 

The Great Catch is busy with many many women! She must fight for your time, NOT the other way around.

 

--Never willing to walk away (NEVER willing to disagree, always

suplicating).

 

Prince Charming wouldn't accept ANY disrespect from any woman. If a woman gave him such disrespect, he WALKS AWAY. The Prince KNOWS all these women want to be with him so he can reject at anytime.

 

Now, I know you're thinking, "I can't act like a Prince Charming or The Great Catch. I DON'T have tons of women after me." This is reversing CAUSE and EFFECT. ASSUME you are The Great Catch, THINK that you are, as you think you shall become.It becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy. Treat your hobbies as if they have more value than the women do (or treat your hobbies as if they WERE other women).

When you think you are The Great Catch, you will act like it and the women will KNOW that you are.

 

Women love certain traits in guys. By THINKING you are The Great Catch allows you to emit these traits NATURALLY and without any effort.

 

=Good Looks

 

You cannot change your genes. But you can change the way how you treat those genes. Does Prince Charming wear raggedy T-shirts? Does The Great Catch walk with his head down? NO! You will wear nice clothes and walk with pride BECAUSE you are proud of yourself. After all, you ARE one of the best. So treat yourself accordingly.

 

Anyone can wear a suit. But few can wear a suit proudly. Few can wear a suit that seems to fit them naturally and creates an aura of importance. Good carriage, excellent threads, are the CONSEQUENCE by how you think ofyourself. Women know this and is the reason why you are judged by this criteria.

 

=Humor

 

Girls LOVE humor. Prince Charming and The Great Catch are funny because they know that they, themselves, are fun. They don't worry, "My Goodness, she is really cute! How Can I attract her!?" They ASSUME she will be attracted and they will have fun in the meantime.

 

Don't be shy. Let your personality SHINE! When you think you are The Great Catch, this should come more naturally because you have nothing to fear.

 

=Dominance***

 

YOU are THE MAN. You must be IN CHARGE. Desperate guys will try to be 'nice' in every which way to win the girl (and fail, of course). But Prince Charming and The Great Catch will SWEEP WOMEN OFF THEIR FEET.

When you THINK you are the goods, you realize that it is rediculous to treat relationship and flirting as walking on eggshells. YOU set the rules, NOT the other way around. After all, You are the prize to be sought.

 

Look at the soap operas, romance novels, etc for grounds of this. Women like to be in the presense of a MAN, not a boy, not a chump, and certainly not a 'nice guy'. It's like a choice of the Fonz or Richie Cunningham to these women. Dominance is also being sure of yourself. Do not speak in a soft tone. Speak STRONGLY and behave STRONGLY. After all, do you think Prince Charming worries about making mistakes? No, so neither should you.

 

I kow, I know. I cna hear you saying, "But I must worry about mistakes or else I'll have another' learning experience on my hands."

 

This is a GOOD THING. Let us say that, in a normal conversation, you came accross a word you weren't sure how to pronounce. Most people will utter the word softly for fear of criticism. This is stupid. Say the word LOUD!! Let me repeat, say the word LOUD!! If you are wrong, you will be corrected. Clearing up mistakes is always a good thing and should never be feared.

 

The same applies with dating. Do not date with hesitation and shyness; date with conviction. Remember the biggest risk you can take in life is not to take any risks at all.

 

=Ambition

 

When you think of yourself as the Great Catch, you KNOW women are not the priority of your life. After all, The Great Catch knows he can get any woman whenever he wants. When you feel good about life, you cease to fear success and demand Life show all that it has. Aim for the moon. If you miss, at least you'll be among the stars.

 

So in the end, too often men think they need a girlfriend to have their life 'complete'. The consequence is that these men will emit signs of desperation. Success is achieved first through the mind, then through the world, never the other way around.

 

[/i]"As you think, you shall become"-POOK Do U Agree ?

[Caldus]

Looks like someone has been surfing through the right websites for advice about women. Excellent work.

[Cecelius]

It is great advice; people smart enough to follow it can find their own bible without a road map to it...