Where to go from here?

[rachelann16]

I have a guy friend that I am very close to. We have became close friends. He has helped me through a lot by listening, supporting, guiding, offering advice, and just being there for me. It’s like we had developed a sibling like relationship; that’s the bond I feel like we have. People question whether we are really friends or if we are dating (or people suggest that we should be dating). I have stayed at his place many times. Nothing has happened aside from cuddling as we watch a movie. I do like him but I don’t know if I could risk the relationship I have with him right now for a committed relationship. He is always someone I can rely on but I don’t know if that would still be the case if something happened while in a committed relationship. I don’t know how he feels about it on his end. I don’t know if he is even seeing/talking to other girls. It’s hard to that he doesn’t do anything but work because he is in the process of completely taking over a bar business from his parents, so our schedules aren’t compatible. What should I do from here?

[Jibralta]

Do you want to date him, or remain friends? What do you want?

[Hollyj]

Is this a friendship, or someone that you lean on as your sounding board? If he is a friend, how can you not know his personal life? It sounds one-sided.

[rachelann16]

I want to date him.

[Hollyj]

Then talk to him

[rachelann16]

How should I bring it up?

[Jibralta]

A good place to start would be to find out if her is seeing or talking to someone else.

[rachelann16]

Should I just ask him that? In what setting?

[DaisyMayPorter]

Forget about if he's seeing or talking to anyone else. He obviously likes you. Call him up and ask him to dinner or drinks, and then try to make a move then - maybe give him a long hug when you see him or a kiss on the cheek. And see where it goes from there.