WaywardKiwi Posted December 15, 2017 Share Posted December 15, 2017 Hey Everyone, I'm want to keep this short, so here are some bullet points: Met girl (D) four months ago; We are both living abroad and will be for sometime; there is a 10 year age gap (although I am a fairly immature 34); We became fast friends (primarily by my efforts); 3 weeks into knowing her I told her I have a crush on her, she rejected me ("just out of a relationship/not ready for relationship"); I agreed to stay friends and genuinely intended to forget my crush; We have spent a lot of time together (including trips together) and have messaged everyday; Essentially, my crush has developed into fully-fledged feelings and I have decided that I need to be upfront and walk away. This is extrememly uncharateristic for me, but I have reflected on my past and decided I need to take a different path. Although I genuinely enjoy our time together and our conversations, as I believe she does, it is starting to effect me (I think about her an unhealthy amount, I make plans specifically with her in mind, etc.). We have plans over the following 2 weeks. Basically hanging out around Christmas and, more relevantly, to travel to another city. On this trip we will travel seperately, and only spend 2 days together (it is more that we are both going to the same city at the same time). I have arranged to stay with a friend in this city, and she stay for 2 nights. She also has friends in this city, so she could probably make other arrangements. My dilemma is - should I bite the bullet and do it now? Or should I wait until after those 2 days? I genuinely like her and don't want to screw her over. Also, if I do it now, should I arrange to do it in person or over message (she actually lives around 2 hours away, but I will be in her area early next week and could meet)? Thanks for any help you can offer, T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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