SHOULD I TELL HER?

[J_Lewis150]

Hi.

 

Lets get straight to it...

 

I've known this girl for about a year. Her names Zoe. We met when i started working in a mobile phone shop part time. She worked full time and is about 3 years older than me. I'm 17 and she is 20.

 

Anyway...

 

I saw Zoe for the first time ever and went wobbly at the knees in love. She is gorgeous, a great personality and such a beautiful smile.

 

I didn't think i had a chance even saying hi to her but a year has gone and we are best friends.

 

Going round each others houses or her flat and watching movies, eating out etc. Really great.

 

I recently told her that there was someone that i had fallen for. A good friend that was so special to me i didn't want to risk losing her so i wouldn't tell her. To Zoe's knowledge she thinks it is someone else, not knowing that the girl i'm in love with is actually her.

 

She told me to go for it and tell her, so i said i would.

 

Before i tell Zoe what i feel about her and surprise her with how i felt, i needed to see if she felt the same about me.

 

There were signs - alot of eye contact, i told her i wuv her in a message and she told me that she wuved me to. I meant Loved i don't know if she meant that aswell.

 

We have got into a routine of texting each other "Night Night babe xxx Sweet Dreams xxx" every night, and in the morning it is "Morning Gorgeous xxx" etc.

 

We even have pet names, i call her princess and she calls me model Joe.

 

This does sound pretty stupid i would have to agree but there are meanings behind the names.

 

Anyway to finish the signs off i saw Zoe the other day and we met up round hers. I said that i hadn't told the girl and she said 'how come?' i said that it was a risk i didn't wanna take as i could lose too much... so she said "well maybe she feels the same"

 

Now does that mean anything or am i just looking for something thats not there.

 

Should i tell Zoe how much i feel for her or should i just leave it?

 

Do you think that there are enough signs for her maybe to feel the same about me?

 

Please write back cus i'm in a mess trying to work it out.

 

I need some advise.

 

Thanks.

[Dana]

Go for it!! She would be pretty dense if she didn't know that it was her that you were talking about. The way you talk you guys spend most of your free time together. Where would another girl fit in? She knows and she is waiting for you to make the first move.

[wishing]

im with Dana on this one! i say go for it! to me it sounds like u r practically goin out with each other neways!

[Gilgamesh]

There is only one way out of this and that is to be frank! tell her in person, look into her eyes, hold her hand and tell her how you feel! tell her you love her!

 

what are your options?

 

1) you stay being friends and eventually she finds someone else either because she is just you friend or she got tired of waiting for you to make your move. either way you end up suffering.

 

2) you breakup the frindship and have regrets the rest of your life of what might have been.

 

3) You tell her how you feel outright, and either things go great or they dont, but thats the chance you have to take.

 

Only in option 3 do you have the chance of anything positive. in option 1 you will eventually lose her, do you really think you could maintain the friendship you have now if she starts dating someone else? marries someone else? really? come on now, you know what you have to do!

[Heretic]

Well personally when read the line "Well maybe she feels the same" I cringed. I don't think she meant her nesecessarily but, maybe she does. I think what is obvious is that you guys chemistry. This is important in a relationship, as is trust, you seem to have that too.

 

I suggest you give it a try. Don't move quickly, physically, move nice and slow. Test the waters so to speak. If you guys are having a great relationship start to get more physical, and hope things work out.

 

You can be friends with your ex! Good Luck!

[Jose]

I agree with everyone on this. You should definitely go for it!

[chica_amber]

TELL HER!!! OR LOSE HER!!!