samrose Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 I am currently in a very new relationship with someone that I have been friends with for a very long time. After numerous attempts at pursuing each other it would always end with the two of us parting ways even though I felt that we deserved to give a relationship a chance. Long story short, a few months ago my boyfriend asked me out on a date with him again and we pursued each other quite a lot. In the beginning he was very invested in me and planning dates but as time went on, I recognized that it slowly turned into me making all of the plans and I felt like it was pulling teeth to get him to invest in me the way that i wanted. As a 21 year old who has yet to be in a long term relationship, I know what I want and deserve, therefore I ended it with him after a few short weeks. He agreed that he was not in an emotional place to give me what another man would know I deserved and we parted ways. I was shocked when a few weeks later, he begins making constant contact with me again, planning things for our friends to do in order to see me again and he confided in me that he was in a very bad place but knew that his happiest times were when he was with me. He asked me for a 3rd chance (he felt cheap even asking me for another chance) and so i told him that I would as long as he gave it his 100%. Once again, he went from being completely invested in me and wanting to talk and be around me all of the time to shutting me out and even telling me one night that he wanted me to go home because he needed some alone time to recharge. This is of concern for me because I know in his past relationships he had a tendency to be clingy but now in a brand new relationship, he is asking me to leave and not investing in me the way that i want him to. He will bring up the future (like planning a vacation one year from now and meeting my family) but then talk about how there are relationship milestones that we aren't guaranteed to make it to. It seems to me that he is consistently contradicting himself and I don't know why he bothered asking me to be his gf again if he was gonna do this all over again. Has anyone ever been in this situation with a rather introverted and contradicting person? And is it worth it to even stick around? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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