Handling Love..

[mo]

Since we're in Love Forum - let me share with you this one,, hope you'll like it..

 

Handling Love

 

 

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

 

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

 

If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

 

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

 

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.

Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.

Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

 

This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

 

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

 

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.

 

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.Love always has been and always will be a mystery.

 

Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...

 

IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN.

[HeavenLee]

Wow, that is some great advice and something that could be useful to everyone.

 

However, when it comes to heartbreak, it's not always so easy to apply such logic. There are so many more issues to deal with that get in the way of being able to effectively apply these to the situation.

[mo]

Yap!! You're absolutely right. Heartbreak is something difficult to cope with. Thanks.

[HeavenLee]

It sure is... and you know, everything you wrote gives people so much hope... it just takes a while to realise it. Because when you are at rock bottom and suffering through heartbreak, it is hard to believe these things because you hurt so, so much. But it's things like what you mentioned that keep people going and trying to reach upwards towards the moment of healing.

 

Thanks for you insight... sometimes it helps to have it reinforced. I know that you made my heartache a little easier to bear today after reading it...

[mo]

Thanks again - believe me I wrote that to ease my sleeve/heart - I'm in deep heartbreak at the moment. Let me tell you:

 

I have been with this woman and felt in love for years now, since then nothing has been proper, I gain nothing from her, just words before "I love you or I miss you" but never been together and refuses to be out for any type of my invitation.

 

I take care very much of her, especially once she explained me her problems with her family, so I wanted to be close to and to give her my shoulders and make her feel that there is someone take care of her - but seems she is not appreciating, I even buying things/gifts for her occasions, if I don't see her for a while, I call, txt, mail her asking what's up or if she is ill, send her get-well cards. But, I feel bad – surprisingly! if one day I don't call/txt/email her, she will very rare asking for me, every time I want to be away from her she comes back and I accept, just because her situation mentioned above.

 

Last 3weekends I was sick with fever and she know that I was sick, but she didn't even ask "how are you now" this made me very angry - to see a person I care/love most don't bother anything. Now it has been 3weeks since our last talk, I decided to stop to talk/email/txt her and she also continue to keep quite without asking for me. This attitude she has been repeating inspite of my warnings, but still doing the same thing.

 

I'm asking myself and anyone of you to tell me what type of friendship/love is this? Does she is not attracted/interested to me anymore? May be I have to give-up isn't? Please advice.