baileylewis Posted June 20, 2017 Share Posted June 20, 2017 I have a boyfriend I have been with for 3 years and plan to marry after I get out of nursing school. We have a baby together and are pretty happy other than the fact that I'm way more affectionate and thoughtful than he is and he likes to keep to himself. He loves me but doesn't like to kiss a lot hold hands a lot he loves by providing for our family and sometimes it feels more like we're really good friends than romantic but he prefers it that way. I love him a lot but have had a constant battle in my head about his porn habit. He gets into a habit when Hes alone if I go to the gym or I take the baby with me to the store. Is it normal for him to be watching it twice or 3 times a week? I feel insecure.Two reasons it bothers me is because I will initiate sex sometimes and he will turn me down because he already "took care of it". The other is that when he does it a lot, he almost becomes "desensitized to it" before he met me, he would respond to Craigslist Ads and even once experimented sexually with a stranger from an add who happened to be a man. He said he didn't like it and never thought about it ever again and never would. But, he then continued to speak to just women. He said he did it was because "porn wasn't enough all the time" coming into our relationship he slipped up once in the very beginning and communicated sexually over the internet with another person and I caught him. He swears he will never do it again but he lied about it for so long until he confessed. he says he didn't wanna lose me because it was a stupid habit he had in high school and it was hard to come out of and he stopped himself?. He also reassured me that it meant nothing and he didnt see it as "a person" he saw it as just an erotic story or such. Am I crazy for being scared of what our future can hold? If there will be cyber or physical infedelity in our future because of his porn habit that could possibly lead to it happening again? Link to comment
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