Maybe this is a silly problem... but it bugs me that he always wants to help

[Batya33]

^This rings 100% true to me.... which then begs the question, are there things I can do to encourage him not to do this, which then might change my emotional response to him, or is it doomed?

 

I definitely do feel like I *should* love him/like him more than I do, and sometimes I feel guilty that he seems more invested in the relationship than I am, but then I think that it is crazy/stupid to think about breaking up with someone because he is too nice to mean, does too many things, etc.

I bet he is reacting to knowing you're not that into him - instead of ending things he just keeps trying to jump through imaginary hoops. And it's a vicious cycle because that turns you off more.

[katrina1980]

I bet he is reacting to knowing you're not that into him - instead of ending things he just keeps trying to jump through imaginary hoops. And it's a vicious cycle because that turns you off more.

 

Great point!